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Which is more important?

Which is more important to a child’s development? How he feels about himself or how others feel about him?


Asked by raynestar at 12:34 AM on Dec. 6, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • Definitely how he feels about himself. If only I could remember that for myself! LOL
    Others will see him in a more positive way because of it. I think the two can really go hand in hand. But I think you can teach your child to be giving without them focusing on what everyone else thinks.

    Answer by musicpisces at 12:38 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • How he feels about himself!!

    Answer by gammie at 12:35 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • How he feels about himself! For sure

    Answer by Charleys at 12:38 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • How he feels about himself

    Answer by horsesteelers at 1:16 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • It really should be about how he feels about himself. Sometimes when kids are growing that is hard because they always want people to like them. I think you need to teach children from a young age that being your own person is important. My oldest son walks to his own beat. It wasn't until he moved to a Performing Arts Charter school that he truly felt like he fit in. His friends from his old school would get on his case about things like his hair, and he never let it bother him. He was like this is who I am either you like it or you don't. While my middle child doesn't always have that confidence, so sometimes he gets upset by what others say about him. As he gets older he understands more about not caring what others think.

    Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 1:33 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • How he feels about himself. Self-esteem is a result of accomplishments, a sense of purpose, connection to other people and considered reflection on the quality of action in challenging moments.

    What other people think changes too much and is just to varied to have anything to do with the victim.

    Answer by LindaClement at 1:40 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • Self-esteem is far more important.

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 7:55 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • he is number one no matter what who cares what others think he is to make him happy

    Answer by dutchcanadain at 8:03 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • Defintiely how he feels about himself. Who cares what others think.

    Answer by MommysAngels810 at 9:52 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

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