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how do i parent a rude 15 year old boy

my 15 year old son is rude to me his dad and siblings he acts like he doesn't need parents that he knows everything he is always TELLING me were his is going instead of asking if he can go. He is very mouthy and hurts peoples feeling I believe on purpose he is very pleasant outside the home. Any advise would be very much appreciated

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Asked by kmgl at 9:46 AM on Dec. 6, 2010 in Teens (13-17)

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  • ground him. If hes rude to you and his dad punish him - take away cell phone or x box or whatever he has like that.

    Answer by LittleBirdFly at 9:49 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • i would just tell him if he wants to act like an adult that's fine with me. he can earn things just like an adult does, so he will get everything taken away from him and earn them back one by one. he can earn back his things by being respectful and doing chores. and good luck going anywhere for a while. going out with friends will be the last thing he will earn back.

    Answer by princessbeth79 at 9:49 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • My DH was an unruly child. His stepdad took away EVERYTHING except his bed and dresser and started getting him up at 4:30am for chores. Ran him like it was bootcamp. It snapped him out of his funk. You could try that. Or try to figure out WHY he acts like that. I know teens are sometimes hard to get to talk, but there has to be a reason.

    Answer by Caoimhe_Oona at 9:51 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • sounds like he is acting like a normal teenager. however, telling you instead of asking is intolerable. he needs to know his boundaries, his curfew, and he needs your PERMISSION to leave YOUR house. next time he tells you he's leaving, tell him how it is. he'll be grounded, with such and such taken away until he can learn respect for mom and dad. does he have a cell phone? take that away, he'll be begging for it back and probably act like such a prince those few days without it.

    Answer by tnm786 at 9:52 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • Punish him, period. Take control and don't let him get away with any of his nonsense. Consistency is the key.


    Answer by shanlaree at 9:56 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • i agree with littlebirdfly. if he is being such an rude boy then te.l him that he will earn his privleges if he keeps his grades up and does chores and listins and dosent be rude. if that dosent work then ground him. make him tell you where he is going. lock the doors at night.have you ever heard of a child lock for doors???those will keep him in! does he have a girlfreind?? a facebook??? if he has a facebook tell him that you will take away those facebook and phone priveleges for a week and see how he reacts. tell him to tell his girlfreind or freinds that he will be absent from his phone for a while! there is to many solutions that i can fit in this space so, those are some pretty good ones!!!:D
    GOOD LUCK!!!!!!

    Answer by gracielovesmom at 10:03 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • If he's rude, you've let him get that way. You have been to lax in how you treated him.
    You need to buckle up and prepare to be strict. No more cell phone, no more driving (if he has a permit or license), no more computer except for school work and that is to be supervise, no more game system, no more after school activities that aren't related to a team or group like the band where they count on his membership.

    If you feel his behavior has been fairly sudden - have him tested for drugs.
    If it isn't drugs - counseling.

    Answer by twinsplus2more at 10:55 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • They do that at that age. Remind him he's acting inappropriately and keep sending him to his room until he can show respect. Take away his computer and phone and wii and xbox (whatever). Repetition and follow through is important with kids his age. My son mellowed out by 16

    Answer by admckenzie at 11:01 AM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • This kind of reaction really never starts over night, this is why respect has to be taught very early on so that when they get to this age, none of this happens.

    Answer by older at 1:29 PM on Dec. 6, 2010

  • We teach people how to treat us. We have NEVER allowed any form of disrespect from any of our 4 kids. If they mouthed off and showed disrespect they would get grounded or have privileges taken away. Also, it's important for parents to have mutual respect for each other and the kids.

    Answer by twinkletoes0408 at 3:22 PM on Dec. 6, 2010

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