I had a discussion with my husband just now about the relationship between black men and women. He said that he's read that black women need to lower their standards. That, if they have a degree, they should be satisfied to married someone not at their level (meaning lower) in order to get married. That, they are just angry black women trying to find a man with money to take care of them in the standard that the woman wants and ... get this... not deserve. In other words, what is she bringing to the table. I told him that we, as black women, need to step out of the box and marry outside our race if a black man doesn't want to at least get an AA degree and or work. There are a lot of good black men out there...I have you but too many sisters are single and holding out for someone to help support, as well as have a relationship with. He says we have to stop acting like white women and just settle. I told him that white women don't settle and told him the story about my roommate in college. She told her mom that if she can't have a prominent white man, she is going about the most prominent black man and that she will get him before her black female friends. Her mom laughed...I didn't. I remembered this because that was the year OJ left his black wife to marry Nicole. I told him wealthy black men always marry outside their race and still you have more black women remaining with black men...who have less money. Now, they want different, not saying better, just different...on their level or above. Hate to put it like this but marriage and finances do go together. I told him that had he NO JOB or college degree (he has an AA and I have a BA), I would not have married him. So, my question is, what's wrong with us being picky?Answer Question
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I recently read an article talking about just this! I am not black, but I think you'd enjoy reading the article. Don't settle and don't be afraid to look outside your race, no matter what anyone says. Article Link.
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