My fiance's daughter is almost 10 and she eats like a 2 year old. I'm so worried about her; she is very underweight, and so skinny that her head looks out of proportion to her body. It's almost like she's anorexic and I'm so worried. Her father isn't concerned at all and caters to her pickiness. Not only is she picky, but she's rude. If I make something she doesn't like (everything) she says "ew." I've never met a kid that age with such terrible diet and table manners. Every article I read suggests hiding vegetables in sauces, but she doesn't eat anything with sauce. She only eats plain pasta, plain rice, white bread, chicken with no seasoning, mashed potatoes, ice cream, and cereal. I'm not kidding. She won't eat ANY fruits, berries, or vegetables, not even pureed. She won't eat beef, pork, or turkey, just chicken. She also won't eat soy products like tofu. She refuses to TRY anything, and I'm scared she's starving and malnourishing her body with her foolishness. Most of all I'm concerned that her father shows no concern. He doesn't eat vegetables or fruit either, so he's a very poor role model. I make sure that I chow down on my salads and broccoli in front of her, talking about how much I enjoy it and how tasty it is, and she always says rude things like, "ew gross." She's sick all the time, and I have a feeling her immune system is shot because she gets no nutrition from the food she eats. I'm at my wits end. How can I sneak some fruits and veggies into this kid? I'm so sick of the tantrums and foolishness. I just want her to be healthy! It's not like I want the kid to eat lima beans and brussel sprouts, but apple dippers would be nice! Even berries in pancakes or yogurt. :( I don't think that's asking too much. How can I sneak fruits and vegetables into her bland, meager diet?
Just to clarify, she lives with us all the time. BM has pretty much NOTHING to do with her. SD will not drink 'smoothies' and her father won't even put vegetables on her plate because he wants to avoid the tantrums that ensues. If she is asked to try something she literally cries like we punched her in the face. She whines and snivels and throws her body to the floor like a two year old tantruming. It's absolutely disgusting. I'm not allowed to give ultimatums like "finish your dinner or no snacks" because he believes that letting kids go hungry is child abuse and he doesn't want DCF involved. In the past, when he tried to discipline her to eat her dinner, she would starve herself then go tell the neighbors that her father didn't give her any supper and they called DCF. He said that he has this problem because when he was with BM he worked 12-14 hour shifts to support them because she was a SAHM. When he wasn't working he was sleeping, so BM took care of the kid. Apparently all BM eats herself is Little Debbie cakes, ramen, Chef Boyardee, and boxed Mac and Cheese. Manners and discipline were never enforced, and the kid never even ate at a table until he got custody and she moved in with him. She's like a ferral child. She sniffles and wipes her nose with her hand at the table, burps, farts, doesn't say please or thank you, tries to put her fork in the butter plate, and sits there with her knees up. When I ask her to 'get a kleenex and stop sniffling at the table' he says I'm "riding her ass" when I ask her to try something I'm "being mean." He makes excuses for her and doesn't set any kinds of reasonable expectations. Basically I need help slipping vegetables into the foods she will eat. It's hard to hide vegetables in plain white rice, plain pasta, plain white bread, and plain chicken. This is ALL she will eat. Asking this kid to eat a raw vegetable is out of the question.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 1:38 AM on Dec. 7, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)
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Anon: The OP wrote... My fiance's daughter is almost 10 . The last time I checked ALMOST 10 is still 9. And she wrote Just to clarify, she lives with us all the time. BM has pretty much NOTHING to do with her. This means that while she is her fiance's daughter she is unofficially her step-daughter and because she lives with them, she mostly considers her as her daughter since she does all the things with her any mother would do with their child. READ WHAT IS WRITTEN.
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