I live over an hour and a half drive from my father and step mother. Hubs aunt lives about 40 min. away. My father and step mother have often babysat for my sibs (3 sibs all with 3 kids). Hubs aunt baby sat for his cousins (her kids) one day a week every week as a gift to the sahms (her dils). We have never had baby sitters accept for the teenager I hire every once and a while. And I understand.... never really rubbed be too much until today.
My kids are now 15, 13, and 9. I have the opportunity to go on a long weekend with hubs (he has to go for work somewhere fun and asked me along). My father retired this past summer so I asked if they could sit for me. No, because my step mom needs to baby sit my sisters daughter while she works - wth? They have had available sitters for YEARS... THEY have gone away on weekend trips, THEY have had date nights with free sitting AND the kids spent the night away. She has a mil who can sit.
I guess it finally rubs me wrong that everyone has a grandparent available to sit for free but me.
Asked by Anonymous at 12:03 PM on Dec. 7, 2010 in General Parenting
Answer by amybaby_19 at 12:05 PM on Dec. 7, 2010
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Answer by Musicmom80 at 12:07 PM on Dec. 7, 2010
Sure that would rub me the wrong way. My MIL has told us in advance she will not watch my son for a week while we go to my sister's wedding - out of the country. Her excuse? I'll be too tired then to do it. This was her statement last summer. Seriously. So I found some very good friends to watch my son while we are gone. My MIL is very territorial and said no because she thinks we will go on vacation with her if we don't use our vacation days on my family. Well.....while I understand her motives for declining she will be very surprised to learn our off time does not belong to her. I have now learned that if she doesn't want to watch him that is fine. I also have found new sitters. Yes, I have to pay for most of them while he is off for school vacation and I have to work. But not dealing with family drama is worth paying out of pocket. Perhaps friends would be willing if you offer a flat
Answer by frogdawg at 12:12 PM on Dec. 7, 2010
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Answer by Musicmom80 at 12:19 PM on Dec. 7, 2010