So I just found out my kidneys are failing. I have 5 kids, but will be going to dialysis and eventually be put on the transplant list. I'm going to need more help around the house, but I don't want my kids to worry about me, at least not until there's a real reason to worry. My husband thinks we should tell the kids, I think not at least until we know more. (The older ones are 13, 10, and 9; the little ones are 2 and 5 months) Would you tell your kids?
Answer by But_Mommie at 12:25 PM on Dec. 7, 2010
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Answer by amybaby_19 at 12:34 PM on Dec. 7, 2010
Of course. Because they need to know that you are not able to do as much as you did before, have a new routine, and new issues to take care of. To wait can leave them feeling blind sided when and if you get more ill. So help them transition now. Of course they will worry. So educate them on what this all means. Wouldn't you worry if one of your children's kidneys were starting to fail? Yes you would. But as a family you can tackle this challenge together. Your husband has the right idea. Smart man. I can understand as a mom you don't want them to view you as a sick person and have them worry. So don't act the sick role. Be honest. When you are tired, say you are tired. When you have appointments then tell them so they know you are doing everything you can do to remain as healthy as possible.
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