My dd is two, and we live in NY. So does her dad and his mother. Along with an uncle, that's all the family that's here in NY. MY family lives in California. My sister's kids are young. My bro has a teen daughter. I have tons of aunts, uncles, cousins, second cousins, third cousins, etc. I recently retured from a 7 day trip to Cali with my dd, and she had a BLAST with my bro and sis's kids. She also met some of my aunts and one of my uncles, and some of my cousins. All in all, there are nearly 60-70 family members in Cali, and she has yet to meet them all!!
Realistically, there's no way I can make the trip to Cali more than once a year. My family isn't financially able to make the trip to NY.
I really want to move back to Cali so my dd can have the love and support of my family, but it would mean moving away from her dearly-loved father.
He says he is ok with us going, but I don't think he realizes what it'll mean for him to not be a part of our dd's life as much as he is now. HE couldn't make the trip to Cali more than twice a year.
He says that military families make it a priority for the kids to have a relationship with the deployed parent. So why can't we? There are web cams, email, snail mail, telephone calls, etc. He's willing to make a 100% effort to maintain a tight relationship with dd.
I can't help but feel that I'm wrong to separate them.
What do YOU think?
Background: my dd's father and I do not live together, and are on friendly terms with each other.
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