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Do all the grandparents/ in-laws participate in your kids lives?

My ex's family has never once sent a birthday card or a call to our son, except ex. FIL brought a used stuffed toy car that had belonged to his wife's grandson. Meanwhile he was telling us about taking that grand kid to Disney world and all the stuff he got. S.O's parents are passed away. That leaves just my family who kind of feel bad they don't have a spot light to share, but still love doing it.

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Asked by 1nglmom3 at 11:10 PM on Dec. 7, 2010 in Parenting Debate

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  • Well...mine are in the US, yes they are always near! My DH's parents are back in our
    home country so they don't see them much. Cards, and lots of packages. They are just far away.

    Answer by khf22 at 11:15 PM on Dec. 7, 2010

  • My children have no grandparents on my husbands side. Unfortunately they do have an aunt and uncle which insist on sticking around, but thankfully the others aren't around much if at all.

    My mother and grandmother are both very active in their lives and thankfully my "dad" has never even met my youngest...

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 11:15 PM on Dec. 7, 2010

  • All of them except my ex's father, which is great because neither of us want him around our son. All the other grandparents dote on him.

    Answer by kmath at 11:16 PM on Dec. 7, 2010

  • They did.

    Answer by kerp1960 at 11:54 PM on Dec. 7, 2010

  • My son has ONE set of grandparents. My in-laws. They are the only ones that count. My parents choose to have nothing to do with my son and that is fine. My in-laws actually remember how old my son is, when his birthday is, and what he actually likes. I guess I do not see how difficult it is to remember these things. He is the only grand-child. :)

    Answer by Mom2Just1 at 12:29 AM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • My parents are actively involved in my son's life. But I do live with them for the time being. And it helps me out a lot. We see my husband's grandparents (son's great-greatparents) once in a blue moon.


    Answer by LeslieNBreaux at 12:47 AM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • My parents are deceased. My husband's father died this past june & his mom died when he was a child. he has a step mom but she is a GIANT B*TCH. we dont want her around.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:28 AM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • Hell no, there's no way i'd let my parents anywhere around my daughter.

    Children can never have too many people who love them, but they can very easily have too many people who don't. I'd much rather her be surrounded by a few who care than many who don't.

    Answer by Piskie at 2:56 AM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • no, i don't want my messed up in-laws involved with my kids, either. At least I can admit that here.

    My inlaws aren't really into our kids. They only pretend to be when they want something. Thankfully my boys are getting older now and pretty soon won't give a rat's tail about these people they never see.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:29 AM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • My parents were always there for my kids, then my dad died and my mom still played her role beautifully and still does. But my hubby's side of the family were not always there for them.

    Answer by older at 8:09 AM on Dec. 8, 2010

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