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I'm a SAHM. Do you think hubby should want to do things with our daughter on his day of or spend it on himself?

Example watching football with his friends out of the house.

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Asked by MLM0503 at 12:33 PM on Dec. 8, 2010 in Relationships

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  • You would think he would want to spend some family time sometimes..

    Answer by SuperrMommyy at 12:33 PM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • I think he should want to be with his daughter but knowing how men are, I'll bet he actually would rather go watch sports. Maybe he can at least watch TV at home with his child? Make them a little father/daughter football party.

    Answer by Orionsgirl at 12:35 PM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • I understand wanting "guy" time, but he should want to be with his family. After all family is the most important thing. Try telling him you think he should spend more time with her, see how that goes.

    Answer by bellsandheels at 12:35 PM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • My husband always wants to stay home on his only day off so I have to take care of him, our son, and my pregnant self.

    Answer by Misteh at 12:35 PM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • He should want want to, but most men don't think that way.


    Answer by skittles1108 at 12:35 PM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • Try to talk to him about a compromise. I remember my husband not spending tons of time with the kids because he wanted to do yardwork, etc. There has to be a compromise. Tell him how much she misses him and see what you two can come up with so she gets some of the attention she needs.

    Answer by elizabr at 12:36 PM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • i agree see if you can work out a compromise with him, that way your daughter gets time with him and he can still have his me time too.

    Answer by countrygirl06 at 12:50 PM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • I can't say that every day off should be spent at home with family, but he should spend most days at home with his family.

    Answer by Austinsmom35 at 12:52 PM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • Im having this problem with my DH as well. I know my DH loves to hunt so we are trying to compromise on when he goes. If it were up to him and never said anything he would everyday after work and on every weekend. So I give him one full day on the weekends if he can come home after work since its already pretty late when he gets home, like 5:30-6pm when he gets off. So he can spend at least an hour 1/2 with our DD a night. and I have the chance to get out of the house with out one vehicle...

    Answer by SierraLynn at 12:55 PM on Dec. 8, 2010

  • Why should the fact you are a SAHM influence whether or not he wants to spend time with his daughter? I think it's natural for guys to want both alone time and time with their kids, regardless of whether mom works outside the home or not.

    Answer by Dr.Donna at 1:05 PM on Dec. 8, 2010

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