For me personally. There was no just "getting over it"..
It was a a process, a process that took a few years to get through. It was not easy, of course completely rebuilding my marriage was not easy either. I went through the severe anger stage, the sever questioning stage, the stage of extreme doubts and also a stage of self realization as well. Oh yeah, I can't forget the stage of taking that hard cold honest look no only at my husband, my marriage but also myself as well.Then. the process of rebuilding began. We didn't even start rebuilding our marriage until nearly 2 years after the fact.The two years up to that point were the years of anger, pain, lashing out, fighting it out and working out whether we even wanted to stay married or not. After that, the healing began and so did the work to rebuild our marriage.
It was not easy. All these years later though, rebuilding was worth it for us.
at 7:51 PM on Dec. 8, 2010