I'm 19 weeks pregnant and I finally decided to tell my little boy. I didn't tell him before in case something happened and I figured it would be easier just explaining to him later that there was going to be a baby rather then trying to explain there was going to be a baby then something happened. Well, I told him he was going to have a little brother and explained it was in my belly, he gets that part because he brought up that he used to be in my belly too. I asked what we should name him and he said "Rat Terrier" lol. Then he started telling me that the baby was going to take his toys. I'm just having a hard time trying to talk to him about it. I showed him ultrasound pictures and all he said was he wanted a baby kitty. It's funny and I understand how it's hard for him to understand, but I want him to be prepared so he isn't so shocked when it gets here. I'm also very worried about him feeling replaced. Any suggestions about how I should try to get him used to the idea? How did you tell your kids? Or do you think I should stop worrying about it so much and just see how things go when the baby gets here?
Answer by squish at 1:00 AM on Dec. 9, 2010
Answer by LindaClement at 9:06 PM on Dec. 8, 2010
i really played up the fact that he was going to be a big brother. and all the stuff that he could teach the baby, and how i really need him to do all his special big brother jobs (get a diaper, throw it away, get a blanket, etc.). you definitely should get a cabbage patch kid or some other kind of doll as your 'practice baby'. that helped alot. we practiced good touch (gentle) vs. too rough. we practiced playing while mommy was nursing practice baby (just sit down with the boppy and the baby for about 1/2 hour and tell him the games he can do. at first he will bug you, but he will get the idea that this is time for quiet play after awhile). i also let him help me decorate the nursery. he helped me clean up the baby toys (that also lets them understand that the baby has their own toys and will not mess with their toys). we also took out books from the library about becoming a big brother/sister. that helped alot too! gl
Answer by princessbeth79 at 9:16 PM on Dec. 8, 2010
Answer by brezze at 9:18 PM on Dec. 8, 2010