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What would you do?

What would you do if your child told you about being sexually abused by his legal (not biological) father and you had already been warned by a judge he'd get custody if you refused visitation anymore?

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sweet29mom

Asked by sweet29mom at 1:56 AM on Dec. 9, 2010 in General Parenting

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Answers (13)
  • I would get an attorney and fight it and have his rights taken away.
    ready4baby2011

    Answer by ready4baby2011 at 1:57 AM on Dec. 9, 2010

  • Same here
    nowmommyof2

    Answer by nowmommyof2 at 1:58 AM on Dec. 9, 2010

  • Disappear. Move to mexico. Serious, I know a woman who went through this. She got her little girl in the long run, but there were too many years of continued visitation and molestation, while judges and therapists hedged. I don't know if I could go through that.
    Adelicious

    Answer by Adelicious at 2:01 AM on Dec. 9, 2010

  • Um. No judge is going to allow custody to a sexually abusive father..
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:16 AM on Dec. 9, 2010

  • You go to the police and child services. Please don't allow this child back to the father until a investigation is done.
    aitson

    Answer by aitson at 2:49 AM on Dec. 9, 2010

  • I would go to the police and then either have him examined by a doctor. I agree no judge would allow a child to go to a sexually abusive person. If nothing else works I would disappear. This is not as easy as it seems, although it can be done.

    Good Luck!
    cornflakegirl3

    Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 7:11 AM on Dec. 9, 2010

  • GO TO THE POLICE AND FIND OUT WHAT CAN BE DONE..
    HomeAlone45

    Answer by HomeAlone45 at 9:54 AM on Dec. 9, 2010

  • Talk to the police & a lawyer.
    SuperrMommyy

    Answer by SuperrMommyy at 10:01 AM on Dec. 9, 2010

  • If all legal ways seemed to be failing me, we would disapear.
    mom2queenie2004

    Answer by mom2queenie2004 at 10:10 AM on Dec. 9, 2010

  • First, I would go to a doctor and have him examined and see if there is any basis for these concerns. If there is go to the police and/or a lawyer and see what can be done. If all else fails and the ruling stands, then I would disappear and make sure my child is safe. My only priority is my child, and if I have to take he law into my own hands to do it, then I will.
    Treefrog64

    Answer by Treefrog64 at 10:42 AM on Dec. 9, 2010

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