We're staying with MIL and BIL until Saturday morning when we leave for home. BIL is slow...he has numerous things, and he just doesn't have the mental capacity to understand some things. DD is 3. Yesterday, I was in the spare room working and the window was open...when I heard DD playing outside. I thought "Oh, that's good...she's been cooped up here all day." Well, then I hear both MIL and DH talking in another room...yeah, DD was outside with BIL! He's capable of handling simple situations, but I was highly uncomfortable with him watching her outside alone. We're in a private community of older people with virtually no cars, but still! I went to get her and then told DH, and he thought that was totally normal! Not to mention, I keep telling her not to do things...and then he will turn around and tell her she can do them. In his mind, he's an adult..he can do this. And in HER mind, he's an adult so he can do this. In MY mind...he doesn't understand WHY she shouldn't do certain things so I would prefer for him to cut it out. But he tends to get cranky and argumentative, so telling him directly would get me nowhere. And if DH doesn't respond THIS time, I'm going to lose my mind! Advice? I don't want to cause a big stink and ruin our time here, but DD becoming defiant because BIL (and even MIL to some extent) keep telling her to go ahead with things I've already said to stop doing because I KNOW she will get crazy if I don't. Ugh!
Asked by Anonymous at 2:35 PM on Dec. 9, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)
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