Ok, ok, I KNOW she's 2. 2 1/2 to be specific, and she's testing her boundaries and it's actually healthy behavior and all that jazz. But I am absolutely EXHAUSTED from fighting her on everything - and I mean EVERYTHING.
Example: I'm trying to get out the door to make it to a doctor appointment. I ALREADY have alloted like an extra hour for dealing with the battle. She's watching Dora or something, whatever is holding her curious little mind while I get myself ready to go. I'm ALMOST done, I give her a 5 min. heads-up that we'll be changing her clothes in a few minutes because we have to go. I approach her 5 minutes later and she does 1 of 2 things: 1) Giggles and runs away from me, all over the house, and when I catch her, even if I do it pleasantly with tickles, she SCREAMS and kicks and fights me and throws a tantrum. Or, 2) she just throws a tantrum from the start. Then it's absolute HELL trying to get her jammies off, diaper changed, new clothes on because she's kicking me, pulling her pants back up as I'm trying to take them down, hiding her little toes from me when I'm trying to put on socks, tucking her arms in her chest when I need to get a shirt on. Usually this whole time is full of tantrum, & whining, and if not, it's a big game and she's enjoying seeing me get frustrated.
FINALLY I get her dressed. I go get a warm wet washcloth to wipe her face from breakfast. Same thing. Runs & giggles, or absolutely fights me. Then I need to brush her hair. Same thing. Brushing teeth? Forget it. Now it's getting cold out... do you think I can get her coat on without any grief? HELL no.
We still somehow BARELY make it on time every time. The thing is, I am 7 mo pregnant, and I am EXHAUSTED from constantly fighting with her... both physically and mentally. I've tried calmly talking with her about it, no change. I've tried time outs, slight change, but in the last 2 weeks or more, NOTHING but trouble. I broke down to my mom the other day because I finally lost it with DD and I really yelled at her. I couldn't take it anymore and I was crying and I yelled at her that she needs to stop making everything hard on mommy and she needs to cooperate. I HATE HATE HATE that I got to that point... but I struck a chord with her because seeing me cry broke her little heart. (She's SO super compassionate, bless her heart...) I struck a chord, but still, no change in behavior. It's gotten to the point where I literally have to FORCE her to do everything I need to do with her, and I don't want to do that. I HATE it. But I don't know what else to do... I need help! DH works very hard for us and literally is gone 2 or 3 hours before we even get up to after we eat dinner. Then he gets to play with her an hour or 2 and it's time for bed. No one in his family is really willing to come help me out... they love to come play but they're really not the "kid" type - they're not comfortable babysitting. The only person I COMPLETELY trust to watch her or help me out in an AP way is my mom, and she lives an hour away without a car.
PLEASE PLEASE, fellow AP mamas, what do you do with your 2 yr olds when they are testing their limits like this? I can't take the battles anymore... I feel I've lost my focus on AP and I need to get back on track...
Answer by gdiamante at 3:22 PM on Dec. 9, 2010
Answer by gdiamante at 3:24 PM on Dec. 9, 2010
Do you discipline her at all? If you don't of course she is gonna run wild. Your the one in control not her you need to let her know that.
Answer by jnd951999 at 3:37 PM on Dec. 9, 2010
This is how I made sure me and my kids got out of the house and to my destination on time. I would get them dressed and ready first. I would MAKEthem get ready. Then I would get ready. Then we would leave. Period. I never gave them a chance to act up and delay me. I do not know what this attachment parenting thing is. But I am the mom. They do as I say.
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