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Help me be happy....(if your going to be rude dont answer)

I really do want to be happy about this. I'm 30wks pregnant with my 3rd child in three yrs. 3 different pregnancies. I really wanted my daughter to be the baby at least for a couple yrs. I know that its my fault that i didnt use protection but I didnt and here i am. I really dont want her to come into this world as a recented child. Me and my SO are not really happy that I'm pregnant again. I REALLY WANT TO BE HAPPY SHE IS COMING PLEASE HELP....

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:51 PM on Nov. 6, 2008 in Relationships

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  • Once your baby is born you will not be able to Not be happy.
    robinalbright

    Answer by robinalbright at 10:54 PM on Nov. 6, 2008

  • i was not happy my entire second pregnancy and it took about a month or more for me to bond whit her, don't force it, just relax and let the bonding come naturally, it took me so long because i forced myself to bond and be "happy".
    chyna_doll

    Answer by chyna_doll at 10:55 PM on Nov. 6, 2008

  • dido....yes being pregnant sucks...but come on, once that baby is here...i think it will be a ball of joy for everyone, plus you have two older kids to help you out. I mean not to do everything, but to help, even if its paying them 5 buck allowance to clean or do laundry. I think having a 3rd child is great.....

    cloud144

    Answer by cloud144 at 10:57 PM on Nov. 6, 2008

  • Maybe it would help to look at some baby pictures of your other children...and remember those happy times. Doing this has helped me through some tough times before. I hope things get better for you. :)
    supermomkell

    Answer by supermomkell at 10:58 PM on Nov. 6, 2008

  • i was the same way with my youngest, i didn't get excited about her until she was a few hrs. old. when i held her and fell deeply in love with her. i still feel bad it happened so soon,but i wouldn't trade her for the world. she ended up being a mama's girl, my other kids always prefered daddy. all you need is time.
    pam228

    Answer by pam228 at 10:58 PM on Nov. 6, 2008

  • i dont have to look at baby pics my kids are babies. 2 and 10m. thats the problem
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:01 PM on Nov. 6, 2008

  • Think of you having the option to have a child of your own to love & raise.
    Many would only hope to have this option you have such resentment for.
    I know you may not want any rude comments however,it seems selfish.
    A child is a gift enjoy that fact..
    Think of the milestones,first haircut,kiss,first words...The fact you hate that is sad.
    I hope you come around for the childs sake of welfare.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:07 PM on Nov. 6, 2008

  • I need to add to the last comment have you talked to your doctor about this,it may be depression or see a professional for help.?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:11 PM on Nov. 6, 2008

  • I know there are women who cant have children. I hate the fact that i get pregnant so easy. My best friend stuggled for 2yrs to get pregnant and stay pregnant while i was having kids. I dont want to seem selfish. I'm sorry if i seem that way. i know that children are gifts but i just cant seem to feel that way about her.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:11 PM on Nov. 6, 2008

  • Have you thought about adoption,maybe this could give her what she needs and another family that are hoping to have what your not looking forward to,again?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:14 PM on Nov. 6, 2008

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