Sticky family situation that seems like an easy answer: yes, pay up! But, here's the bigger picture: My kids and I were visiting my brother's home recently. My brother offered to watch the kids for awhile so his wife and I could have lunch. We returned to find that my 7 year old daughter (while playing with 2 other kids, and thinking she was backing up to a chair) sat on the edge of their coffee table, causing the leg of the table to break. This particular table is very special to my sister-in-law, like art...it has an acrylic base and a glass top, so not an easy repair. She just sent me a bill for over $1,200 for the repair to a "like new" condition. (To buy the same table, new, is $1,500.) (If it were my table, I would have quietly not made a big deal of it....and would have used an acrylic epoxy to glue the leg back on ---not a "perfect"fix----but usable and would have saved dignities of all involved.)
It's not that I don't want to contribute to the repair of this table. As a matter of fact, I GAVE her a pricey item that I intended to sell (but that I knew her daughter wanted) and asked her if it would make up for the damaged table...I thought it did, but turns out, not! Now, I feel completely conned by her demand that I pay for the entire amount. After all, the table has been precarious in her home for 16 years and many times I have seen it be an issue with kids and dogs around. How do I know that the leg wasn't weakened and that any movement on it would have caused it to snap? Should I pay for all of it when the children weren't in my care? (In my home, I don't let kids play around some of my household items (my antique armoire, chandelier), cause I know the replacement values. Also, if a child were to break something while in my care, I wouldn't make their parents pay.
This situation has me totally frustrated on many levels. For years, we have given our treasures (timeshare rental, jetskis, boats, etc) and time (childcare, petsitting) FREELY to them. Now, I realize that they take none of this into consideration --only count every penny of something they believe I am "Responsible" for because it was "my daughter" who "broke it." (Interestingly, I realize now that I am mostly the one giving...) If I do pay, then how do I navigate this relationship in the future? My husband says we can no longer visit in their home, as he will worry that whatever goes wrong will be billed to us while we're there.... And they can no longer come to our home as he will worry about their "greedy ways" should something occur while they're on our property (lawsuit, etc).
This is just awful....and right at the holidays....please help me with your perspective.
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