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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Hawaii (Oahu)
My ex-husband (daughter's father, we will call him "A") and I were married in June 2008. June 2009 "A" and I welcomed our first and only child, however we had split in April 2009.
"A" was there during the birth, but (18 months later) he has only visited her one time. He does not send cards, emails, nor does he contact me via phone. He has consistently paid child support as required by the military and the CSEA.
I currently have sole legal and physical custody. "A" only has supervised visitation in my home.
"A" and I both moved on after that relationship fairly quickly. Our divorce was finalized April 2010 and by May 2010 we were both re-married. My new husband (we will call him "S") has been there since my daughter was approximately 3 weeks old. He has been the ONLY father she has ever known, and HE is the sole reason she knows the word "dada".
"A" (my ex-husband) contacted me tonight and informed me that he would like to relinquish his parental rights to our daughter. During our divorce this came up, and he'd declined to do it. But realistically speaking, it makes the most sense. He does not have a bond with her, he hasn't tried to have a bond with her, and we're both military families ("A" is Army, and my husband is Navy). We could be stationed opposites sides of the world.
The adoption will be consented. I am currently looking at the Hawaii Court website and there are various forms that can be used in an adoption, varying on the circumstance. I am not sure as to what the first step is that I am supposed to take here.
However, "A" has been very wishy-washy when it comes to our daughter and is consistently changing his mind. So I'd rather get started with this very quickly.
Please, if any of you have ever done a consented step-parent adoption and know what the process is PLEASE get back with me. This is by far the best Christmas present I could ever have, so I cannot wait to hear from you =).
"A" (ex-husband) and I were married when daughter was born. His name is on the birth certificate.
"S" (husband) and I are married. We've been married since May 2010.
"A" and "S", as well as myself, are all currently on island to fill out whatever paperwork is necessary.
Also, are there any special things/papers that we would need to do/sign being military? Thanks!
Please feel free to ask any questions.
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