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Is it possible to be stuck?

I feel like me and my husband are stuck we dont do anything besides maybe a movie every couple months we spend all of our time with our kids granted its not a bad thing but i dont feel like we use to i feel as we are going down different paths

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 1:30 PM on Dec. 10, 2010 in Relationships

Answers (7)
  • Some times this happens when you have been married a while time to get creative.
    tyme4me2day

    Answer by tyme4me2day at 1:33 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • i use to sell pure romance and ive done everything in the area but where do i go from here?
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:34 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • TIME TO SPICE IT UP A LIL DEAR..WHATS SOMETHING YOUS USED TO DO? CAN U GET A SITTER TO GO HAVE A WILD TIME?
    cleomo7

    Answer by cleomo7 at 1:37 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • Go away, you and dh. Do you have family that can watch the kids for a night or two? Sounds like you guys need a break from everything and just spend some time together.
    JamieLK

    Answer by JamieLK at 1:39 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • we dont get the joy have having a sitter very often because of our son is autistic and is a lot to handle and not many of our family has time for him
    Anonymous

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:39 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • It can be difficult with a autiistic child but my advice, is to steal some moments together. You could make out in the closet. YOu could have dance together in the living room. You could watch instead of a movie once a month, you could make it a date night with your specail snacks. A little talk in the evening, while the kids are asleep. I understand if you guys are exhausted. But, to keep the relationship alive you must take time out for your relationship too.
    i wish you all the best!
    Sillylins

    Answer by Sillylins at 1:55 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • You guys do not have to go out together in order to "get" together.

    It's very possible to make time for just the 2 of you right there at home. Little things like:

    Set a time, when that time hit's you guys only focus on the 2 of you. No bills,no dailies, no work (unless of course unforseen circumstances pop up. which happens) Just the 2 of you. Being and focussing on yourselves as man/woman, not mom/dad.. KWIM.

    Special dinners for just the two of you after the kids go to bed at night.. This can be changed up to: picnic by candlelight in the living, dinner and dancing, dinner, dancing, and a movie.
    And so on.

    What brings 2 people closer, isn't the Going out together. It's how they treat and interact with one another. If you only treat one another and interact as "Mom & dad". That's what the relationship will be. Start treating/interacting like you used to (man-woman) and the closeness can (usually does) return.
    pixie_trix

    Answer by pixie_trix at 2:46 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

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