My sister and I do not speak but I do get to see her 4 year old DD occasionally. I was talking to her DD yesterday and she told me that her mom's boyfriend is mean to her and whips her bottom with a belt. We don't spank in my house but I understand that others do but isn't it considered child abuse if you're flat out whipping a child's backside with a belt?
I ask this question because I am very good friends with my sister's ex (her DD's dad). I was concerned so I told him what his DD had told me. He has primary custody of DD, my sister gets her every other weekend. He wanted to know if he could press charges against my sister's boyfriend for spanking his DD with a belt. Can anyone help me out here.
Okay so let me add some more info:
My sister called my mom yesterday and asked her to babysit her daughter while she was at work becasue her dd did not want to stay at mommy's house when mommy wasn't there. My mom said yes. Me and DS went over to mom's house to visit while my neice was there. My mom asked her if there as a reason why she didn't want to stay at mommy's house without mommy there. My neice said, "I don't like to stay there without mommy because Chris (mom's bf) is mean to me." We asked her, "How is he mean to you?" She said, "He spanks me with his belt when I get in trouble and he screams at me."
A little bit of background on the guy: Back in March him and my sister got into a fight and she was 17 weeks pregnant. He pinned her up against a wall and broke her phone in half when she tried to call the police. He then locked her out of the house and wouldn't let her come back in to get their son who was 18 months at the time or to even put shoes on. It was like 30 degrees outside. After this all went down, she said that he has severe mood swings, and that he gets mad very easily. She said she is always walking on eggshells around him. After their altercation she started bleeding heavily and went to the doctor who told her to take it easy for a few days. The next week her and him get back together and the next day, she goes to the E.R. because she is having contractions. She ended up losing the baby in the 18th week of her pregnancy. Needless to say, no one in my family likes her BF. We all hold him responsible for that.
So when I told her what her dd had told me about her bf spanking her with a belt. She told me that her dd says everyone is mean to her when she doesn't get her way. She also told me that she wouldn't be suprised if I made it all up because I don't like her bf. I told her that mom and our sister had been sitting there when her dd said all of this. She said, "Well you're probably all in on it together, none of you like him."
I don't understand how some mothers can just totally disregard what their child says in favor of their bf. Anyway so that's pretty much the whole story. Sorry it's so long and thank all of you that have offered some advice.
Okay so I guess my question is, Is this abuse? Can my neice's dad press charges against my sister's bf? Any advice you all can give me will be appreciated. Thanks.
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