I HAVE THREE GROWN CHILDREN, TWO OF THEM HAVE CHILDREN OF THEIR OWN. I MISS THEM VERY MUCH AND HAVE BEEN VERY DEPRESSED SINCE MY YOUNGEST MOVED OUT ON HIS OWN AND HAS BEEN GETTING IN A LOT OF TROUBLE. HE HANGS OUT WITH KIDS THAT ARE A BAD INFLUENCE ON HIM AND HELP HIM GET INTO TROUBLE. HE HAS ONLY LIVED ON HIS OWN SINCE SEPTEMBER 1ST AND I CAN'T BELIEVE THE TROUBLE HE HAS GOTTEN INTO! EVERYONE TELLS ME TO NOT HELP HIM AT ALL BECAUSE I AM ENABLING HIM. I JUST CAN'T STAND TO SEE ANY OF MY CHILDREN HURT OR NOT HELP THEM IF I CAN. BUT HE ONLY HAS COME AROUND ONCE SINCE HE MOVED OUT WHEN HE DIDN'T WANT SOMETHING. WHAT DO I DO? I CRY ALL OF THE TIME AND I WORRY SO MUCH THAT I AM GOING TO GET A CALL THAT HE HAS GOTTEN IN AN ACCIDENT AND IS DEAD OR HE IS IN JAIL. KEEPS ME UP AT NIGHT, I AM TYPING THIS AT 3:35 AM CAN'T SLEEP BECAUSE MY SON HAD COURT TODAY. WHAT DO I DO?Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 4:12 AM on Nov. 7, 2008
I have no idea what I would do in your situation. I guess the best thing you can do is find something you enjoy doing and do it. Try out some new hobbies and focus on making your life better. Unfortunately, making mistakes are part of growing up and you have to give your son room to screw up and grow up. He won't grow up if mom continues to hold his hand through his troubles, it's time to let him take responsibility for himself, and time for you to enjoy not being tied down with kids. Or you can do what my parents did to cure thier empty nest syndrome. Adopt.
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