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Whats the etiquette on sending cards to children you've given up?

I gave my son up for adoption this year, but it was an open adoption. His AP's said I could send him something for Christmas and we wanted to include a card, but wasn't sure how to sign it?

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Asked by ChristianJMommy at 7:19 PM on Dec. 10, 2010 in Adoption

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  • I'd sign it merry christmas! hugs and kisses -jennifer (my name)

    Answer by hibbingmom at 7:21 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • I would just sign your name.

    Answer by Snewo at 7:22 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • Im not sure, do you have a relationship with the parents? I know they are mommy and daddy. Maybe Birth mom? Or just your name. Good Luck! I think its great you are still sending him things!!!!

    Answer by kiansmom0423 at 7:22 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • "Someone who loves you very much" ????

    Answer by Hazelnutkin at 7:28 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • I am in your situation now only thing is I didnt give mine up. I let his dad have custody because I couldnt take care of him. He calls me ms. tiffaney. However he will know the truth about who I am hopefully by next year. I sign everything as ms. tiffaney right now.

    Answer by ready4baby2011 at 7:29 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • Both of my kids' birth moms just use their first names, but that is what we all decided from the beginning. Did you talk about this with y our child's adoptive parents already? Maybe you could talk to them and ask them what they will be comfortable with. I love the idea of you sending a card and maybe a gift. I save all cards from my kids' bmoms, and since DS doesn't get to see his (her choice) I have saved messages she has left on the phone so he can hear her voice.

    Answer by Iamgr8teful at 8:32 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • Love, (my first name). Don't put any other stuff like "all my love", or "your birthmom", anything like that. Stick with your first name. I'm a birthmom and I stick with that.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:55 PM on Dec. 10, 2010

  • I always used "Love Always Denise". I think using "birth mom Denise" is perfectly acceptable.

    Answer by onethentwins at 1:46 PM on Dec. 13, 2010

  • I always signed with either Love Always or Thinking of you and then my first name.

    Answer by blessedwboysx3 at 2:49 PM on Dec. 13, 2010

  • Don't call yourself "birth mom". Use something like Ms (your name)

    Answer by JLS2388 at 9:15 AM on Dec. 14, 2010

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