I might be pregnant.
now I am pro-choice, and agnostic. my fiance is the same and says that if I get pregnant before our first one is 3 (is just turning one now), and out of diapers, that he wants me to get an abortion. yes we have been using birth control, but I have "that feeling" and so does he. we aren't exactly poor and could swing having another kid.
my problem is that even though I am pro-choice, my choice is not to have an abortion based on non-religious reasons. does any one else have any non-religious ideas to throw at him as to why I shouldn't get an abortion besides the negative physical and psychological impact of having one done.
mind you it can't involve, god, the bible, or anything like that if I want to win this debate, because neither of us put much stock in them.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:47 AM on Nov. 7, 2008 in Relationships
Answer by SamanthaAgain at 12:04 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
Answer by melody77 at 11:53 AM on Nov. 7, 2008
Answer by feesharose at 11:56 AM on Nov. 7, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 11:57 AM on Nov. 7, 2008
Answer by Mommy2B04 at 12:17 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
tell him because his logic is flawed. make him give you a legitimate reason, beyond previous attitudes, why you can't have a kid right now. if he can't provide a compelling argument that you should kill his baby, then have the kid. he is on the defensive here, not you. and a human life shouldn't hang in the balance of who is a better debater.
Answer by teri4lance at 12:33 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
Because you don't want one. It's just that simple. Perhaps you can examine your feelings on why you want to continue this pregnancy. Explain that to him. It just feels "right", it feels like its time. You're not comfortable terminating a pregnancy you know you could handle. Unplanned events happen in every life and some of the *best* things that have ever happened to me were unplanned.
I wouldn't have this argument until you know for sure. Why strain the relationship over a hypothetical? But if you find you are pregnant tell him.
Some positive sides to this - the kids will be closer. Your daughter won't remember life without her sibling... so she's less likely to resent child number two. If you're not working right now, having kids closer together makes it "faster" for you to get back to work once the kids are in school. Good Luck Mom! :)
Answer by Serafyna at 12:41 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 12:43 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
wow sounds to me like you need to realize that you might of blew your relationship ..hope it works out for you
Answer by Anonymous at 12:44 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
Answer by sbastille at 1:04 PM on Nov. 7, 2008