It's a complicated and long story. When my daughter was 20mths, I told her biological father about her, and basically she was conceived from my one and only one night stand. Obviously between that night and when we found out, we'd both changed a lot. I'm 24, he's 31, already has his Master's degree and was at that point in life where he actually wanted a family- so he was thrilled and didn't resent me for not telling him sooner. He just wanted to move forward. We started dating and within months we all moved in together, and at first it was perfect.
Then flash foward--he's a teacher and works a lot, and I mean A LOT. He never really has time for me, and is always distracted. He's an incredible father, and gives our daughter everything she needs, but I feel like sometimes this just isn't meant to be. It's horrible because I have so much to be greatful for- he really is an amazing person and treats me well, except for the fact that I feel invisible M-F, because he works until he goes to bed- and on the weekends he works until he's tired and THAT's when we hang out. Basically sometimes I want to leave, as selfish as that sounds. I just feel like I was a single Mother for 20mths (mind you, we both have no family on this side of the country) and sometimes I feel like I still am.
We've talked about it before, because additionally our sex life has sufferred due to his job- and he just blames his job and then his age for his lack of a sex drive. Blah, so sometimes I feel like emotionally I'm really not getting what I want or need- and that's when I think of leaving but realize how could I do that and separate our family.
Guess this is way more of a vent but do any of you ever want to leave?? or DID you? Btw we moved together in June- so it's been six months so far...
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