We went through a real ugly patch a couple months back and it lasted for a couple months. We're still kind of bouncing back from it, it sucks because he's constantly gone for his job. During that time where it was rough I just saw a different side of my husband. I thought he was being incosiderant, insensitive, and just friggin stubborn as hell over something that very obviously upset me and hurt me! I used to think the world of my husband and that he could do no wrong, but he hurt me and I felt so disrespected and neglected. Now I don't think the same of him. Of course I still love him but I just feel so disappointed and still a little angry towards him. He acts like everythings fine and peachy, I just don't know how to express to him that I view him and our relationship differently after this because I know he'll immediately go on the defensive and turn into lawyer mc lawyerpants and find a way to manipulate the whole situation around where I'm the only one at fault! I know I played a hand in our rough patch, too, but it's frustrating when he gets like that because to be frank my brain doesn't work like that and I get confused! If that makes any sense! lol I just don't feel like he's what I made him out to be, he always was just so "perfect" and maybe that's my problem, I never really saw him as anything less and he knows it. I just felt really let down. Any advice?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:14 PM on Dec. 12, 2010 in Relationships
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It's hard when you have high almost unattainable expectations for your mate. its normals to want your mate be a certain way and uphold obvious morals, as staying faithful, helping out and providing for the family, etc...but when you think of him as being perfect, nobody can live by that standard.
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