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what to do about our relationship

okay so hubby and i are going through i guess you can say a dry spell when it comes to sex and romance, are sex has been so so and there is 0 romance. we dont have much money so getting awa for a weekend or even a day/night is out of the question, we have 4 boys under 4 and e just moved in with his father and sister to help them out. so it just is not a great mix for sex and romance. so we dont even have the house to our selfs. do you ladies have an ideas of what we can do. thank you

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michelle.coppes

Asked by michelle.coppes at 10:16 AM on Dec. 14, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Do it in the car
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 10:17 AM on Dec. 14, 2010

  • You have to be very creative in this situation, good luck to you.
    older

    Answer by older at 10:18 AM on Dec. 14, 2010

  • Next time your in the car alone with him...start getting frisky...something is something and you gotta start somewhere.
    ShouldHaveLeft

    Answer by ShouldHaveLeft at 10:20 AM on Dec. 14, 2010

  • If you are living with his father and sister to help them out it sounds like you have some babysitters at hand, that's a start. Romance is subjective, with 4 small kids just getting out and spending time together would be romantic enough for me. Browse a bookstore together go out for coffee, go for a long drive.

    RyansMom001

    Answer by RyansMom001 at 10:20 AM on Dec. 14, 2010

  • The most romantic thing you can do for your husband is to affirm him in some way every single day. Whatever says love to him, and it may not be the same thing that says love to you, will keep the flame alive and well. I think most women tend to think of romance as being solitude, candlelight dinners, and soft music, but to most men, that's not at all what it means. Words of appreciation, his favorite meal served with the knowledge it was made just for him, taking care of an errand so he doesn't have to do it--all these can be extremely romantic to your husband. And the fun part is in figuring out which one of those things really makes his heart sing. When you locate it, you won't need to worry about romance ever again.
    NannyB.

    Answer by NannyB. at 10:21 AM on Dec. 14, 2010

  • Depending on where you sleep, you can always sneek nookie in....

    In the shower late at night, in the next room, under the blankets.... Try an make it fun, which will also make it exciting. Wake him up in the middle of the night when everyone is in bed, or early morning....

    Romance, late night love story on tv, with snacks and snuggles, is always nice for me, or a candle lit room... Trust me there are alot of ways, just let your imagination run wild and you will be amazed at what you think of.... You didn't make 4 boys alone, think of how you can please one another in a sneaky way. Have fun and Happy Holidays....
    KFree907

    Answer by KFree907 at 10:21 AM on Dec. 14, 2010

  • You can boost the romance by doing little things, like sending a lovey text message for no reason or just giving a hug or kiss for no reason at all. You don't have to spend money to have some alone time - take a walk around the neighborhood alone or take a drive together to look at Christmas lights. When you have kids, you really have to be creative about how to spend time together, even if its just a half hour here and there. I think once you start boosting the romance level, the dry spell will decrease because you will find a place to have some privacy because you will really want to - necessity is the mother of invention!

    tarakenyon06

    Answer by tarakenyon06 at 10:22 AM on Dec. 14, 2010

  • If his father and sister live with you, I would ask him to babysit for a few hours so you can go out, park, movies, coffee. etc. Is he open to any thing? if he is then risk it, try new things. Go online and search for things to do with hubby. If they don't want to babysit, put kids to sleep so you can still do fun together with him in your room. Dress up sexy, just be creative and enjoy the moment. Good luck!!! and have fun!!!
    bratgirln1

    Answer by bratgirln1 at 11:14 AM on Dec. 14, 2010

  • Have the family babysit. Go somewhere secluded and have sex in the car. If it gets warm where you are, how about a blanket in the woods? Send everyone out to the movies and get the house to yourselves. You know your situation best, so, get creative.

    It doesn't have to just be sex either. Find a budget movie theater and make out there. You could just plan a romantic dinner after the kids are in bed.

    Take a nap during the day. Then, the 2 of you can stay up late to have some time together.
    momofkids

    Answer by momofkids at 9:56 PM on Dec. 14, 2010

  • Try something new like the car or park :D GL
    fairygurl91787

    Answer by fairygurl91787 at 1:39 AM on Dec. 15, 2010

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