DH had asked my son to be home to help with installing a new furnace.(Professional, who's a friend, was installing but just in case they needed help) Son asked what time. Dad says noonish.... Son was home but had made plans for that evening. Son kept asking "how much longer?" & "What time do you think I'll be done?". By 3:30 son was getting tired of waiting and when dad said it would now be 5:30 or so DS got cranky made it clear that he had people waiting on him and stomped off to the family room. Dad blew up.... Screamed at him to "Just F*cken leave, I don't need your help.." Granted DH was totally stressed out, and son was acting like an inpatient 5 year old, but son would have stayed had he not been cussed at. So son left.... They are both so stubborn and won't see the others point of view. However, I feel like I'm the only one who's paying here. I lost my son... He hasn't been home since Saturday. I've talked to him on the phone a couple times but he's still angry even towards me. I'm trying to give him some space. It's rare for him to stay mad this long. Hubby called and told him that "He's welcome to come home" but until they see that they were both wrong I'm not sure I want him home. Hubby will start with "I'm sorry" then go straight into but..... "I do this, that and whatever for you and only asked this one thing of you". It will become a soap box preaching instead of an appology.
Anyone that has experience with this I'd appreciate advise. I don't want to force him to come home... but I want peace.
PS: The furnace was finished by 7:00. I never saw anything that my son could have
helped with, let alone, actually be needed for..... (Not an excuse for bad behavior..... just an observation.)
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