Long story short. I have a gf who has made some pretty bad choices lately and lost her house, car and custody of her kids to her mom in the process. She meets a guy, he puts her through hell, she goes to jail because she let him get into her head to the point that she was going to take the blame for a gun charge. She gets out of jail and moves in w/his mom (again, listening to him and who she knew has a crack and heroin problem) and starts using herself. She says she's off it but I'm not sure I believe her bc until she finds her own place, she's staying w/ his mom along w/ other "friends" she's made that she doesn't know @ all and IMO, are a bad influence. My ?, should I contact her mom and CPS or stay out of it and hope for the best?
Asked by Anonymous at 7:41 PM on Nov. 7, 2008 in General Parenting
Answer by Xee at 2:33 AM on Nov. 8, 2008
Answer by EireLass at 7:42 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 7:43 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
Answer by KennsWifey at 7:47 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
Her mom has her kids right now until they go back to court. But my concern is that when she gets them back, she will not have removed herself from the environment she is in now or gotten the help she needs and her kids will be brought into it with no one knowing before hand.
Answer by Anonymous at 7:49 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
Answer by KennsWifey at 7:50 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
Should I wait until she gets them back and see if she starts abusing or neglecting them or should I let someone know now? I would feel even worse if I waited and they ended up being in an unsafe environment and I knew and didn't do anything.
Answer by Anonymous at 7:55 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 11:12 PM on Nov. 7, 2008
Answer by sammiesmom2000 at 8:01 AM on Nov. 8, 2008
The only problem though is that I don't know for sure whether or not she's still using. She says she's not, but I haven't seen her in a few months. I think she might be but I don't have any proof either way. And something else I don't understand, she says, "I CAN"T BE AROUND IT"?, are those the words of a user? And please don't bash me for asking more questions as this may be an easy question to answer, but it's not an easy place to be in to have to ask it.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:21 AM on Nov. 8, 2008