My daughter has one little friend in our neighborhood. It's her best friend. The problem is that sometimes this friend has a very bad attitude and can be very mean. The parents try to correct these behaviors, but children have their own will, so I don't typically fault the parents when something goes badly between my daughter and theirs. My daughter comes home crying at least one time out of 5 when she plays over there. The other girl flatly refuses to ever apologize for "telling the truth" (which is really just an unkind opinion about something). I want to let my daughter build her confidence in her skills and abilities to take care of herself, but I hate seeing her cry and go back for more because she is just too sweet and forgiving...How do you handle a bestie bully?
This is NOT about the other child. This should never be about the other child. It is really about how your child copes with uncomfortable or mean situations. This is a significant learning opportunity for your child. It is not your job to fix it. It is your job to offer suggestions and have a good chat about friends, friendship, and how to navigate the hard world of the ups and downs of friendships. Give examples from your youth about situations where you were hurt or hurt others. What did you do? What would you do differently? Give her the tools to choose from. Be the shoulder to lean on when she is upset but don't try to fix it. Let her know you trust her judgement and she can resolve this. She will have MANY hard times with friends. You can encourage growth, strength, and a calming sense of self in your child. When she comes home let her cry and listen. Don't fix or say anything but just listen.
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Answer by not-the-momma at 11:22 AM on Dec. 15, 2010
This may be her life lesson with dealing with bully's, having said that, I feel bad for your sweet little girl having a friend like that and would try to lesson their play time or make them play at your home where you can handle the situation to a point. GL
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