I know this may sound pathetic but I am going to ask it anyways. I am the oldest of four children and the only one that lives geographically close to my parents. All the others live far away. I am the only one that does anything for them and even if the others lived close probably would not anyways ( my father ; we all agree has been pretty abusive) the thing that gets me is my mother who, is a child oriented person ADORES my son and of course because we spend alot of time around he is spoiled by her ( of course) it seems like EVERY holiday my brothers and sisters pick fights with me because of this. I will not tolerate their abusive speech even in the holidays ( not any time not any way) what happens is that I always seem to get the blame for the whole thing because they do not want my other brothers and sisters to not even come up then. They are afraid they wont come up at all
Then my father will say because he is abusive, that they dont come up because they hate me but what he doesnt know is that its a unanimous verdict amongst us all that he is abusive. The thing is why do the others do this? I am the one on the worst end of the stick having to put up with him all the time. Moving away; for my son and I is not an optionbecause the only one it would hurt is my son seeings how everything ( school; friends eetc is here) it may even in fact even give my sons father; an upper hand in custody which he has been trying for to no avail since he has been born. Isnt that nice I have an abusive father and give my son one too!!!!! Anyways the big question is how do I deal with my siblings and their shenaniggans for the holidays??? HHHHHHEEEEEELLLLLLPP!!!!
Answer by MaryMW at 5:40 PM on Dec. 15, 2010
Answer by nwaskie at 5:17 PM on Dec. 15, 2010
Answer by MaryMW at 5:45 PM on Dec. 15, 2010
Answer by dutchcanadain at 9:10 PM on Dec. 15, 2010