long story short...ive been married to my dh for 13 years he has 3 kids from a prior marriage and 1 with me....my step daughter is 8 years younger than me and has 2 kids of her own and one on the way...ive really tried over the 13 years to be kind and loving to all the kids....well for the past year my steph daughter has been avoiding calling or emailing our house and i asked my dh had he heard from the kids?? he said yes all the time they call or email him at work...that hurt me that they are avoiding me...but the big shock and why im posting this question is i recently talked to my sister in law and she asked my if i was going to my step daughters baby shower and could we ride together? well i was shocked because every one knew even my hubby about her having a baby and a shower but me...i wasnt invited....thanks for your input
regardless of your stepdaughter hating or liking you ....your Husband still should talk to you about family things and NOT keep things from you.
I work with a gal and her SD came between her and her DH (the SD father) they were very much in love but they divorced BECAUSE of the SD behavior
She doesn't have to like you BUT she needs to give you the respect you deserve by being married to her father. She is putting your DH in a hard place, by behaving like she does. I am thinking DH needs to grow some balls and stand up to his daughter. He should tell her YOU are his WIFE and she needs to treat you with respect. ANd until that happens he will be pulling back from her. ANd SD needs to grow up !!
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It isn't about if your sd likes you or not. You can never control what some else thinks or does. Her opinion is her opinion. It may be based on things not true or misunderstood.....but still, you can't change it. You can only control how you respond, think, and feel. Graceful is always my motto. This child didn't do anything (the one about to be born) so you can always send a gift to recognize his or her birth. It shows grace and it acknowledges to your sd you are accepting and welcoming of her and her family she is creating. Then it is up to her. Always civil, no drama, and graceful. Second thing, why didn't your husband tell you? I would personally have a conversation with my spouse and tell him I am hurt he didn't inform me of this party. It doesn't change I am not invited but it does continue the drama. In mature relationships there is NO drama. Only open communication.
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