I also posted this in relationships but would like a Christian view as to what I should do.
I just found out Monday my husband of almost 10 years has been cheating on me. I knew we were having problems but I never ever in a million years would I have ever thought he would do this. It was a girl from work who is much younger and he was also apparently high when he did it. (Seems his been hiding alot.) I also didn't think that we were having problems until about the time this started. He said he wasn't happy with his life but that it wasn't me. I really don't get that. He has cried alot and seems to be very remoresful. I do believe he loves me still, and amazingly I still love him just as much, I am just in total shock that if he loved me so much how could he do this. We are trying to work it out and I really hope it works. I always thought if he cheated that would be it, but then again I never thought he would either. Am I just being stupid? Because even I don't see how he could be inlove with me and do that, yet I believe he still loves me.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:50 AM on Dec. 16, 2010 in Religion & Beliefs
Answer by Iamgr8teful at 12:22 AM on Dec. 17, 2010
Answer by scout_mom at 9:52 AM on Dec. 16, 2010
Anon, I don't think you fully grasp what it's like to heal from infidelity. This woman needs compassion, not bashing. ;o(
Answer by Crafty26 at 1:10 PM on Dec. 16, 2010
Christian or not this is a GREAT website for dealing with this!! LOTS of support and info for you!! http://survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp
Answer by Crafty26 at 9:53 AM on Dec. 16, 2010
Answer by asmcbride at 10:49 AM on Dec. 16, 2010
You have to do whats best for you, there isn't a right or wrong decision. If he is truly remorseful he needs to make some serious changes, like counselling, both couples and individual. The fact that he is telling multiple lies over an extended period of time would really concern me. It's hard to trust that someone is really sorry if they can be a convincing liar for a long period of time. If it were me I'd make him do some serious work with a counselor and he'd have to prove his commitment over a long period of time, and I would seek counselling for myself. Good Luck.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 3:14 PM on Dec. 16, 2010
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