So when I got to work and stuff I have my boyfriends parents watch my 2 kids ( my boyfriend is deployed) ....
They are constantly complianing about every little mark on the kids and this and that... they are 1 and 2 years old ! They are suppose to have marks on them ! .
Just because I am not one of those helicopter moms doesnt mean I am not a good one!
When the kids with the helicopter moms cant go to school or be without their mom for 5 mintues... mine will be independant and can rely on themselves ! How can they not think that THAT is not more important ?
I am serioulsy considering them not going over there on Christmas because they are making me so mad when they try to talk to me about this shit !!!
Asked by Anonymous at 3:49 PM on Dec. 16, 2010 in Parenting Debate
Answer by Blabbermouth at 3:52 PM on Dec. 16, 2010
Answer by SweetLuci at 3:53 PM on Dec. 16, 2010
Answer by older at 3:53 PM on Dec. 16, 2010
I wouldn't do that just because its Christmas and you don'twant them to say they wont watch your kids any longer. Christmas is also for the kids, dont ruin it for them. You should just tell them exactly what you just told us. I take care of my kids, I want them to be independent, I dont want them to cry every time they fall down, Im a good mother and I dont like you saying anything different. Good Luck and Im the same way with my kids. Merry Christmas
Answer by kiansmom0423 at 3:54 PM on Dec. 16, 2010
Answer by sweetpea1217 at 3:58 PM on Dec. 16, 2010
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 4:04 PM on Dec. 16, 2010
Christmas does not HAVE to be spent with your inlaws. If you want to have Christmas at home with your own kids and not with his family, do it. I wish I had put my foot down about Christmas from the start, but I didn't and now I have spent the last 18 Christmases with my MIL. I won't get the kid's Christmases back when they were little. Spend time with your kids while they are little while you can. Not spending the day with your inlaws is not going to ruin your kid's Christmas - but seeing you obviously upset by the things your inlaws are saying to you will stick with them.
Answer by scout_mom at 4:05 PM on Dec. 16, 2010
Answer by balagan_imma at 4:06 PM on Dec. 16, 2010
Answer by annabellelee at 5:05 PM on Dec. 16, 2010
You have to decide if you want them to babysit or not. You can't control their thoughts, feelings, or actions. You can only control your thoughts, feelings, and responses. If your experience has been your future in-laws question you about every nick, bump, and bruise, then you have some choices to make. Do you choose not to (politely) accept their offer to watch your children? Do you accept their offer to watch your children but smile, nod, and explain the bump in question (politely and with patience). Or do you decide to NEVER have contact with them because it is too much to handle? One day you may have their biological grandchild....do you remain convinced no relationship with the grandparents is the best option? This is all up to you. Personally, I would not create more chaos and just have patience and grace. If they really thought you were harming this child the mature thing to do
Answer by frogdawg at 8:58 AM on Dec. 17, 2010