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Would you continue to have children if you had 2 back to back that had issues?

Issues meaning: downs, mental retardation, serious health issues.

Would you continue conceiving for your own wants of the kids?

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Asked by Sandyr911 at 11:25 PM on Dec. 16, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • nope. to risky and a bit selfish,also too much of a burden on the parents. those kids will not leave home at 18/19 to go off to college.....that is a burden imo.

    Answer by maya123 at 11:38 PM on Dec. 16, 2010

  • I don't know if I would have enough energy to devote to 2 special needs children alone, let alone any more. I don't have enough time or energy for my 3, and they are all above average.

    Answer by sweet29mom at 11:38 PM on Dec. 16, 2010

  • If I had 2 children with special needs I would not have any more kids at all. Biological or otherwise. That is a lot for me to negotiate as a parent. I would not be able to give a third or forth child 100%.

    Answer by ecodani at 11:39 PM on Dec. 16, 2010

  • only if i REALLY wanted another. like if i had 2 boys and no girl or vice versa.

    Answer by devtdbosombuddy at 11:39 PM on Dec. 16, 2010

  • No, because then you wouldn't be able to give the attention you need to to the child with the special needs that really needs the attention. Plus it would be very hard on you as a Mother to deal with physically and emotionally.

    Answer by MyAngel003 at 11:41 PM on Dec. 16, 2010

  • See thats what i thought too but ive seen a few people post who have multiple children with problems. Not minor ones....major ones.

    Comment by Sandyr911 (original poster) at 11:42 PM on Dec. 16, 2010

  • Depends on the issues. We have 3,2 with special needs. They are all
    So close in age we didn't know they were untilll all were born.
    Sometimes you don't choose your lot it chooses you.
    There's nothing selfish about it here and each one gets all the
    Help love extra they need.

    Answer by mamallamaof2 at 11:44 PM on Dec. 16, 2010

  • No, I would not. I would want to devote all my time to their needs.

    Answer by Mom2Just1 at 12:16 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • My cousin has 3 children, 2 have special needs. She didn't know the older one had problems until he was 3 and by then, his sister, also with special needs, was already a year old. So if you see families like this, that is most likely what happened.

    Answer by Nadali at 12:23 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • I know a gal that has three kids all have autism-different degrees of it.

    Answer by Jazmineamomma at 12:23 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

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