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My holiday dilemma!!!!

so heres the atory
everyone is struggling in our family this year so my hubby and I talked to our parents at thanksgiving about not doing presents this year and everyone agreed including the teenagers of the family. last week hubbys mom got a really big commission check and of course bought her younger kids(14 and 17) and all us a whole bunch of presents. today she called and asked what we got my DHs brother and sister and we of course said "nothing" because we all agreed on no presents because we are seriously behind on bills and our rent. she said that she thought we were kidding. she said that if we have no presents for the kids than not to bother coming over christmas. or she will buy each one of them a $50 gift and say its from us and then we can pay her back next time hubby gets paid. i told my hubby that i would rather not go then, because we all sat down and agreed on it. he wants to let his mom buy the presents and we can try to pay her back even though we barely have enough to buy food. so what do i do??


Asked by Anonymous at 1:26 AM on Dec. 17, 2010 in Holidays

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  • No... I would not agree to that. I would stand my ground and not go over for Christmas.

    This year my family agreed to only buy gifts for kids, but as Christmas has gotten closer, my oldest sister keeps trying to change it, so people will buy gifts for adults now too. Nobody has money for that this year. When I heard that, I said No way, No how!

    She agreed, too bad for her.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 1:30 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • ultimatum, excuse me

    Answer by SweetLoveofMine at 1:35 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • Umm you MIL is a real case, sorry to say. She obviously thinks you can pull a magic wand out of your rear and produce money. She's being disrespectful and bossy to say the very least. She basically TOLD you what you could do for Christmas and gave an altematem!! I would respond to her by saying that you had an agreement and if she thought you were "just kidding" then that's her problem for assuming. I wouldn't do the whole $50 thing because I wouldn't want to OWE her a dime nor be TOLD what to do!!!! Geez Louise I would stay at home that night and away from her!!!

    Answer by SweetLoveofMine at 1:32 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • Not only did she change it, now she's telling you what you have to pay for their gifts, since you have to pay her back eventually! I wouldn't go.

    Answer by LostTheSlipper at 1:33 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • This will only get you in a deeper hole so I wouldn't do it. Or maybe offer to pay it back at tax time maybe.

    Answer by preciouschild at 1:38 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • No, you all had an agreement, and I know what its like to me tight on money. This time last year my bf had a job at Bob Evans making like $8.00 an hr supporting the 3 of us! It was very hard! You don't wanna make any more commitments, I dont think they're going to be heartbroken if you dont buy them anything. Maybe just give them a card & tell them how much they mean to you but I wouldn't do anything you dont feel comfortable doing. You're trying to get out of that hole not dig it deeper, you can always make up for it at a better time. Maybe you all should try talking to her one more time though, I love being with family at Christmas but if she doesn't understand then you can't let her walk all over you all. You are the boss of your life not her!

    Answer by JaxonsMommy16 at 1:48 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • The thing is, that she should know what it feels like to be in a hole. We paid her car payment for a year and bought groceries once in a while when they were struggling and we were doing well. We never asked for any money back and were talking over 10 grand. For some reason she always gets on her high horse when she has a dime in her pocket. And seems to be enjoying life when other people are struggling. She is just a bad person in general. I cant stand her, however my husband has mommy issues and has been trying to please her for the longest time. I respect my husband for loving his mom but shes just a bitch, and his brother and sister really dont deserve anything for christmas anyways, theyre brats. I tried calling her and talking about it and she just said that no matter how bad it ever was she always had a gift for everyone in the family and suggested we get a payday loan or borrow some money for gifts for the kids

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 1:56 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • WOW. Yeah this lady needs a dose of reality for Christmas. I wouldn't want her in my life at all for 365 of the year. She's an idiot too. Tell her the 10 grand should suffice her til death.


    Answer by SweetLoveofMine at 2:04 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • Lol i really want to say that too

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 2:07 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • WOW!! She's the gift that keeps on giving, huh??!!

    Answer by goodwitch399 at 4:30 AM on Dec. 17, 2010

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