My son will be 6 in less than 2 weeks. His smarts (and smart ass) usually extend the norm of kids his age. So what I don't understand is why, after years of beaing able to do it on his own, I ask him to get dressed after breakfast, and he will go in his room, but 10 minutes later, instead of him getting dressed, he is rolling around on the floor naked or playing with his toys. If I ask him to go brush his teeth, he makes it into the bathroom, but instead I find him playing with my hair bands....
But, if I ask him to go get me all of his trains in alphabetical order and line them up for me in rainbow color, he will do it so fast without blinking an eye....
He complains about having to do pretty much anything he HAS to do... even eating his lunch. He only ever wants to do what HE WANTS to do. I am SOSOSOSOS sick of fighting with him, and with him goofing off, especially if we are on a time crunch or something.
I DO NOT give in and do stuff for him. Ever since he was a baby I gave him the chance to figure out how to do things. We have always had a routine, however imperfect it sometimes gets because of the other child in the house, we stick to he basics of it.... Lately I have, for my sake, gotten his clothes out and layed them on the floor for him to get dressed quicker (this is not working) and also gotten his tooth brush ready (also not helping).
I'm at a loss, but I am so tired of fighting with him. How do I get him to do things??!! I have tried to just leave him to his own devises, but he won have anything done by the time we have to leave for school.. and I cant let him be late, ya know? He is also having this issue at school, where they do the same activity almost every day, but when his teacher comes around to see what he has done, he hasn;t even started .. he says he deosnt knwo how to do it...
Asked by Anonymous at 10:53 AM on Dec. 17, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
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Answer by randilinn at 11:06 AM on Dec. 17, 2010
So many possible things can be here. It could be normal (nothing medical) and he is either testing or just truly getting distracted. Or it could be him getting distracted so easily is a sign of something else. ADHD? Who knows. Anxiety about wanting to go to school so procrastinating? Maybe. Trying to get your attention (and he has it)? Maybe to that too. I would attempt to make some adjustments in how things are done temporarily. I would also make a well child check up to discuss with a doctor. This needs to be put into perspective. No matter what is going on....not the end of the world. Frustrating as all get out. But not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. Truly you will find the answer in time. Or often it resolves itself given a little bit of time. Hang in there. My four year old is easily distracted....we have to practice great patience in our house each morning.
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