I have goals. I want so badly to meet those goals. But I have no positive motivators or feedback for anything good I do to get closer to those goals.
No-one believe's in me.... not even me anymore.
I do not take well to negative motivators. When someone says, "You can't do it" I don't think, "Oh yes I can! And I'll SHOW you!" I think, "Yeah, they're right... I can't."
Due to this lack of motivation on my part I have only increased the lack of support by showing everyone around me that I really CAN'T commit to my goals or myself or them. Which only makes my problem worse.
My biggest health goal right now is to lose weight. I need to lose about 70ish pounds to get to a healthy weight.
My mom was always supportive of my intelligence, but never supported my physical feats when I would try so hard to lose weight. My boyfriend has told me multiple times (but I don't think he truly means it as harsh as I take it... he is just a blunt person) that he wants to support me and encourage me but he has seen me quit so many times it's hard to.... and I understand how that goes honestly and where he is coming from.
I don't have friends I can work out with (I actually don't have many friends at all), I have a lot on my "plate" right now (obviously much of that plate is full of food as well or else I wouldn't be in this predicament would I?), I have issues with depression and anxiety, I have asthma but no money to see a specialist doctor to get a prescription for an inhaler and my regular doctor won't give me one without seeing the specialist I can't afford, I don't have enough money to join a gym and as you can see I am full of excuses.
How do I find ways to become motivated and to actually commit to myself?
Answer by older at 12:06 PM on Dec. 17, 2010
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 12:01 PM on Dec. 17, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 12:02 PM on Dec. 17, 2010
First and foremost, you got to love yourself, this is what you are not doing. Erase the can't from your vocabulary, replace it with I can, give yourself credit for what you are capable of, you will be surprised what you can achieve, if you use optimism instead of pessimism.
Answer by older at 11:58 AM on Dec. 17, 2010
Answer by 2010mommy0914 at 12:02 PM on Dec. 17, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 12:03 PM on Dec. 17, 2010
Answer by 2010mommy0914 at 12:08 PM on Dec. 17, 2010
You have to want to change, and where there is a will, there is a way. All you have to do is find it, and knock every obsicle down until you make it. You dont need friends, you dont need family, all you need is confidence that you CAN succeed. We can do nothing if we dont first think it. So think positive, speak positive affirmations, and know who you are (or at least who you want to be).
Book suggestion: Sacred Woman
Answer by sugahmamma at 12:09 PM on Dec. 17, 2010
Answer by 2010mommy0914 at 12:11 PM on Dec. 17, 2010
Answer by ChezBelle at 12:12 PM on Dec. 17, 2010
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