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how do i get my husband to be more romantic with out sounding demanding?

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Asked by katkashka at 1:10 PM on Dec. 17, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Hun, this is something that has to come natural or else it is no good, accept him as he is and you be the romantic one, maybe it will rub off.

    Answer by older at 1:15 PM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • thank you thats a good idea and all but i have tried so many times and he just dont care

    Comment by katkashka (original poster) at 1:16 PM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • Alot of men equal romance with sex so unless they're about to get it,they have no interest

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 1:16 PM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • lol yeah thats true to

    Comment by katkashka (original poster) at 1:17 PM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • dont try and change him u may regret it!

    Answer by san78 at 1:21 PM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • He has to want to you cant make him. And very few men are really romantic.

    Answer by bellsandheels at 1:55 PM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • What is your idea of "romane" or "being romanced"?


    What's yoru husband's idea of "romane" or "being romanced"?

    In many relationships. When this issue of one or the other not "feeling" the romance or not feeling that there is any romance happening. It's actually more of an issue of miscommunication and not really understanding each other's way of showing/viewing/giving romance. For example (just random) Wife A views romance as her husband bringing her flowers now and then, or her husband giving her a back rub.. Husband A views romance as bringing his wife a cup of coffe in the morning, grabbing her fave candy when at the store because he saw it and thought of her.. Husband A feels he's being romantic but it's not being seen or appreciated. Wife A feels that there is no romance going on so she feels hurt and unappreciated... See the potential problem.....


    Answer by pixie_trix at 3:44 PM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • So if wife A understood/comprehended how her husband shows his love/romances her. Then she would see the intention behind his actions. Therefore she would realize that she is being romanced, in her husband's unique way of showing her that romance. And neither would be feeling neglected or unappreciated in this area.

    From my personal experience (married 25yrs now). Once I learned and understood my husband's manner/idea of romance, and he mine. Neither of us have ever felt negelected/unappreciated in this area again,because when an action is put into place we both understand the INTENT behind the action. That's the key, is knowing/understanding the intent behind the action. I now see that my husband does things for me almost everyday that are romantic in his eyes. And vice a versa.

    Learn his way of comprehending romance and romancing (and vice a versa). It may turn out you guys are romancing quite abit. It's just not seen

    Answer by pixie_trix at 3:49 PM on Dec. 17, 2010

  • Be up front and vocal about what u want, he's not a mind reader. Tell him what kindof romantic experience ur looking for and u may even have to initiate it.

    Answer by lstrickland at 3:49 PM on Dec. 17, 2010

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