i have a 3 year old, who just hit her "terribles" she tells me no ALL the time.. doesnt listen.. and tries to tell me what to do. She is a wonderful baby girl and i feel so bad for getting on to her nonstop daily.. she has even begun to play "youre in trouble" with her toys/ or pretend like she is getting on to someone.. i dont feel like i am being a good parent because she gets in trouble so often. and she realizes it to the point she plays to get things/people in trouble. :( it makes me very sad.. but on the other hand what else can i do?? when i tell her to put something down (the lotion as she is pouring it all on the floor) i ask her to put it down and she says no, my hands are dry i need it. or not to play in the flour while i am cooking and she does it anyway.. to not write on herself and she does anyway.. none of these things are a big deal but when i tell her not to and she does i have no choice but to get her in trouble.. she gets herself in trouble but i have to punish her. i dont know what to do.
Answer by jeanclaudia at 2:26 AM on Dec. 18, 2010
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Answer by countrygirl06 at 3:18 AM on Dec. 18, 2010
For a three year old it's best to distract or substitute the negative behavior with one that is acceptable. For example, when your daughter writes on herself it's best to say, "Here is a piece of paper. You can write on this, not on yourself." "Please help me stir this. The flour is for cooking, not for playing." Take the lotion away from her and give her something she can pour. You get the idea. If you do this consistently, over a period of time, you will see progress. This will change your relationship into a more positive one. (The approach for an older child would be different.) www.filedby.com/author/linda_griffin/1127154/
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