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how do i get my 6 year old to clean her bed room with out a fight

everyone spoils her even me now she thinks she does not have to doing any thing

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Asked by trouble333 at 2:10 PM on Jul. 6, 2008 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • If she wont clean it herself. YOU clean it out! EVERYTHING but the bed and cloths and dressers. When she has nothing to play with tell her you warned her to clean it or you would. Then if she keeps it picked up give her toys back only a few at a time and re warn her of what will happen if she wont keep it clean.

    Answer by vbruno at 2:42 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • Don't ask her to clean her room, ask her to do something specific, like put away her toys or straighten her bed, or put her dirty clothes into the hamper. "Clean your room" is a colossal job, whereas "put your dolls on the shelf" is a task. Give her tasks, not a job and see if that works!

    Answer by niseylee at 2:42 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • I agree with giving her tasks. One small thing at a time. Also, if she doesn't complete thes tasks, don't give her any rewards. For example, "No tv until you make your bed"... or "you can play outside after you put your toys away". You will probably have a fight on your hands at first, but stick to your guns! She will realize that it's a lot easier to do what's asked to get what she wants quickly.

    Answer by drowninginboys at 2:53 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • Clean it with her including getting rid (out of the room anyway) anything that is not hers (including closet stuff), too small, she doesn't like or wear... Put heavy coats in your hall closet or master bedroom closet.

    Purge and declutter. Might even be a good idea to label with words and pictures what goes in each drawer and so on. Then she can keep it up, since it will not be overwhelming and she will know where everything belongs.

    Answer by TXdanielly at 7:57 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • i make mine clean their rooms and then, they can have a friend over or have a friend spend the night.

    Answer by mygirlsrock00 at 8:16 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • tell her she has to first! and if she keeps it clean for ____ amount of time, she'll get a brand new shiny_____. :) good luck.

    Answer by ChasesMommy0115 at 9:21 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

  • Give her a deadline and help her break the task into smaller things: like put all the art things away today, all the clothes tomorrow, etc. Let her know that if she doesn't clean it up by the deadline, you will.

    If she doesn’t meet the deadline, go in with garbage bags and remove EVERYTHING that is not where is actually belongs. Every toy, every piece of clothing. Put the bags somewhere she can't get too.

    When she screams that all her stuff is gone, remind her that she had a deadline. Let her know that she can earn her things back by doing things when she is asked. Keep a chart. If she does what she's asked every day for a week, she gets one bag back.

    Remember, your main goal isn't to get her to clean her room, it's to teach her how to reach a big goal herself. How to break huge jobs into little tasks, how to build a schedule of little do-able deadlines, how to stick to that schedule so the big deadline is met.

    Answer by kaycee14 at 1:23 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

  • I agree with kaycee14! My daughter is 6yrs old and it can be a war getting her to clean her room. So we set the timer and whatever is left on the floor we take away and tell her that she had more then enough time to clean and when she can show us that she can clean up with out being told several times then she can have her stuff back. The next time we ask her she picks up right away and we dont even have to set the timer

    Answer by maof2princesses at 12:04 AM on Jul. 14, 2008


    Answer by nytangl57 at 3:02 PM on Jul. 20, 2008

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