Temper tantrums should be talked about first and foremost, with your spouse or significant other, if you have one that is, since this will take both of you being on the same page to order to nip it quickly.
If it's about anger, and she's just angry, then yes, talk to her about her emotions and help her learn how to properly express them, but if it's about not getting her way, which I'm assuming it more than likely is, then punish her for the wrong behavior however you see fit.
Everyone preaches about the 'time out method' and the 'talk it through method' or the 'spanking the bottom method' without really seeing if the parent they are talking to has a specific type of punishment already set. Me? I spank and do time-out, and with me, throwing things and having a temper tantrum results in a spanking unless I can see that those behaviors are results of anger. Then my child and I talk about it and see if there is a better way.
at 8:52 PM on Dec. 18, 2010