My 9 year old daughter has always been taught that no matter what she will not be punished for telling me the truth even if it is bad and I have always stuck by that.
When I get the feeling she is lying and she says she isnt and then I will tell her she has a chance now to tell the truth because if I find out she is lying after she will be punished she starts to spill her gutts. I get upset because she lied in the 1st place and want to punish her so she understands that she cant do the things she lies about but I cant because she did tell me the truth even after the fact. Am I wrong for not punishing her? I am just totally confused about this sometimes.
Answer by Anonymous at 9:04 PM on Nov. 8, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 9:06 PM on Nov. 8, 2008
I have a 12 year old that is normally an awesome kid. Extremely responsible, does his chores, does what he is asked.. and yet.. is a compulsive liar... Thing is .. it doesn't matter if he is going to get in trouble or not for the truth.. if i ask him a question, he will lie without thinking about it. Not sure why... and it makes my blood boil. My neighbor suggested something that seems to be working. When I ask a question - I usually know what the answer is going to be.. think about it.. you do. If you think it's something he/she may lie about - tell them.. I don't want the answer until you STOP AND THINK ABOUT IT. When you are ready to answer me.. then we will talk. If they lie - they get punished. No ifs, ands or buts about it.. lies are NOT acceptable. You don't have to punish her for the "Crime" .... but punishment for the Lie. Explain the difference.
Answer by 4xmommy2008 at 3:43 AM on Nov. 9, 2008
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