I need support, please. I was overdosed 2 years ago by hospital on a simple day surgery. Our son was 14 at the time. I have brain anoxia and Lost my short term memory. I spent 9 days in ICU and when I came home, I lost my career, my host home clients and our son. He crashed and got into trouble. In a 3 month time he drank, smoked pot, got into a fight, stole our car and was suspended from school. After these events he was placed in a detention facility. I feel ripped open. I am a great mom! I was his team manager for football, knew all his teachers and we were close. He has been home since August after 15 months. He is 17 now and I cannot connect the dots. In my mind he was just 14. This cannot be real. He is different since he came home. He lies, cheats, will not attend school, stays out all night, and I am sure he is using alcohol and drugs. I am sitting here at my computer crying and sobbing. I have not seen him since yesterday morning. I want our son back!!! I want my life back! I want my son. I feel like I may die. I truly have never felt so helpless. We have our 10 day jury trial starting in March 2011. It has a long road. The neurologists say I will not get better than I am today. I do not want to hear that. I want my life back the way it used to be. I miss my baby!!!!!!!!!!!! I just need to get through today. Please moms think of my family. I need to know our boy is safe today. I do not even have a stick to fight this anymore. Please do not tell me how wonderful your teens are, please. I posted only one time and it was not a positive experience. I just could use some support. I do not know what to do and I need to feel better. Cafe moms means so much to me. I have lost my life as I knew it. Cafe moms is my safe place. I can read questions and offer support. I feel like I have friends. I know that sounds silly.
IT doesn't sound silly. Hugs for you. It is so bad what happened to you. I hope you will feel better and you can kick the hospital ass!!! Sit down and talk to your son that you love him and you need his support. The teenager years are awkward without any major trauma. And your family had a big one. Try to take him to counselling. He had so bad experience in this life. Probably he feels he doesn't have any control if something bad happens. I am not surprised he uses alcohol and drugs plus he is lying. OMG!!! How much trauma could it be for him what had happened with you!!! Definitely counselling. You can't get him back by yourself. And you need counselling as well. You should make yourself strong and ready for the fight in front of you... You have all of my support. And I send some virtual hugs on CM:)
Answer by adriennfaklya at 11:00 AM on Dec. 19, 2010
Answer by hill2 at 10:53 AM on Dec. 19, 2010
It's not silly. I am here if you need me. I may not know the right things to say but I can listen really well. I know how hard this must be on you expecially at this time of the year. My little brother got into some bad trouble when he was a teenager and he got sent of for a year. I remember how hard it was on my mother and all I could do was listen to her and just doing that seemed to help. So just know if anything there are people here who will listen and offer you great big hugs.
Answer by angelmine2011 at 10:55 AM on Dec. 19, 2010
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 11:00 AM on Dec. 19, 2010
Answer by bnnsweet at 11:06 AM on Dec. 19, 2010
Not silly. I have a grandson like that and I miss the old him. There are times I want to turn back time and redo things just to get the nice guy back again. Here's a hug.
Answer by admckenzie at 11:57 AM on Dec. 19, 2010
Answer by NE1outthere at 1:26 PM on Dec. 19, 2010
Answer by _Tam_ at 1:03 AM on Dec. 20, 2010
Answer by dutchcanadain at 2:42 AM on Dec. 20, 2010