The "sperm donor" has visitation every other sunday.. and we have it set up for my parents house because the sherriff made it where he couldnt come to our house becuase he kept showing up without calling (always right after my husband left for work), on days that werent his visitation days, and would refuse to leave even when my daughter wasnt there. and we have it supervised by either my myself or me. I havent been the last 3 visits for the fact that everytime i was there he would try to argue with me the WHOLE time he was there instead of spending time with her. i would literally have to walk off to get him to stop trying to agrue with me in front of her.. and i wouldnt comment back. he just kept trying to push my buttins. but last night my daughter was sick and woke up with a fever this morning.. i gave her medicine and she is feeling a little better but i wasnt going to send her without me when she wasnt feeling well.. so while here i notice that my parents are trying to encourage her to call him daddy..because he showed his ass about her calling my husband daddy (he has been taking care of her and been in her life since her 1st bday and she started calling him that all on her own NO HELP OR ECOURANGEMENT TO START.. all on her own.. and the "sperm donor" had nothing to do with her.. i mean nothing.. wouldnt call to check on her for months never came to see her for months on end.. was going to sign his rights away in oct. last year and said he would have other children and would actually love them.. he only became "interested" in coming to his visitations when he found out i was serious with my husband.. and only tried to argue with me, tried to start fights with my husband and father when he came to visits.. constantly checked the time and still doesnt show up for every visit and doesnt call to check on her or anything" so it offends me that they are walking around saying who is that? why dont you wait til daddy does this daddy that.. STOP DOING THAT he is NOT her daddy he is her sperm donor and doesnt deserve for her to call him daddy. and if she feels that he is her "daddy" she will start calling him that.. dont make her feel like she HAS to call him daddy.
I know how you feel. My dd has a sperm donor, he hasn't been around since she was an infant. And I am married. She knows of my Dh as "dad" and doesn't much about the other guy. First of all, tell your parents how you feel. Just because he spends a few hours with her, it does not make him "DAD". Also, you need to let the judge know how he treats you when you are there with your dd. Maybe you can have someone else watch over the meetings and not get in the middle.
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