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is it true if my babies daddie cummed in me it would harm my baby??

my fiances friend had a kid a year ago and we told him im pg and he said that if my fiance cumms in me it would harm my baby.

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newmommy767

Asked by newmommy767 at 3:55 AM on Dec. 20, 2010 in Pregnancy

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  • No, that isn't true. That genius needs to keep his mouth shut.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:58 AM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • your fine, it wont hurt the baby. .....let me see if i can find some info online for you...
    MamaSusieQ045

    Answer by MamaSusieQ045 at 4:00 AM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • thank you so much cuz im kinda worried about it
    newmommy767

    Comment by newmommy767 (original poster) at 4:03 AM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • Sex During Pregnancy
    What You Need to Know
    By Robin Elise Weiss, LCCE, About.com Guide
    sSex during pregnancy can be great!
    Photo © iStockPhoto
    Nothing raises as many eyebrows as the subject of sex during pregnancy. Despite the old saying that medical and religious miracles aside, every pregnancy started with a sex act.
    One thing that I would note is that sex and sexuality are very different, and that even if you are not having sexual intercourse, your sexuality can still be expressed.

    Your sexual practices during pregnancy will depend on several factors:


    Your previous beliefs about sex
    Your Partner's previous beliefs
    Physical aspects of your pregnancy
    Emotional aspects of your pregnancy
    There are many reasons why sex during pregnancy can be more enjoyable, even if your are doing it less. There is an increase in vaginal lubrication, engorgement of the genital area helps some people become
    MamaSusieQ045

    Answer by MamaSusieQ045 at 4:04 AM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • Pregnant women and their partners do this everyday!! doctors usually encourage it. you can't be that naive...

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:06 AM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • WOW! thank you so much. i feel better about it
    newmommy767

    Comment by newmommy767 (original poster) at 4:07 AM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • There are many reasons why sex during pregnancy can be more enjoyable, even if your are doing it less. There is an increase in vaginal lubrication, engorgement of the genital area helps some people become orgasmic for the first time or multi-orgasmic, the lack of birth control, or if you have been trying for awhile, a return to sex as pleasure as opposed to procreational, and other reasons.

    On the other hand there are reasons why sex might not be as pleasurable: fear of hurting the baby, nausea, fatigue, awkwardness, etc.

    Although these can be valid reasons, doing research and talking to your partner and practitioner can often help you clarify what is really inappropriate during pregnancy, particularly for you.

    Change is rampant during pregnancy both in your body and your beliefs. While women may feel large and uncomfortable, men generally find the pregnant body very erotic and desirable. Talk about your difference
    MamaSusieQ045

    Answer by MamaSusieQ045 at 4:07 AM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • Talk about your differences and attitudes towards your body and sexuality.

    Make sure that you discuss the feelings that you have about sex and sexuality. These discussions can lead to a more fulfilling sex life. If either of you do not feel like having sex, this can be particularly important. Explain to your partner what is going on and what they can do to help you be sexual. For example: more cuddling, relaxing baths, romantic dinners, massages, mutual masturbation, whatever you and your partner agree upon is exactly what you need.

    The hormonal fluctuations of pregnancy also play a part in your reactions to making love, as do the trimesters. Many women are too fatigued and nauseated to be very interested during the first trimester, while the second trimester brings a new sense of delight as her abdomen grows, and again later in the third trimester the desire may wane as well.

    "Hmmm...sex during pregnancy...during
    MamaSusieQ045

    Answer by MamaSusieQ045 at 4:09 AM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • "Hmmm...sex during pregnancy...during the first trimester, honestly, I think the sex was more..intimate...the sensations seemed heightened, despite the initial ‘Ohmigosh, are we going to hurt the baby?' Now in the second trimester, it's becoming a little more awkward, especially now that I'm showing. We've had to ...ummm...well...adjust a little bit, position-wise...but the intimacy hasn't changed," says Dee.

    Okay, so we know that there are wide variances in who is doing it and when, the big question (No pun intended.) is how?

    Creativity should be your keyword during pregnancy. Or more bluntly put, whatever works! There are many sex positions that are more comfortable as you expand. These include:


    Woman on top
    Spooning (Man behind woman, rear entry)
    Hands and Knees
    Side lying, knee pulled up
    What are men saying about sex during pregnancy? Most are pleasantly surprised.

    MamaSusieQ045

    Answer by MamaSusieQ045 at 4:10 AM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • What are men saying about sex during pregnancy? Most are pleasantly surprised.

    Rich says "I haven't noticed a real change in the sex...it was always awesome! The only real difference now is in the position! We've had to accommodate for a growing belly, and as a result we've had to explore a little...but it's been fun exploring."

    When not to have sex and/or orgasms during pregnancy:


    Your practitioner has advised against it
    You have a history of premature birth or labor
    Placenta previa (Where part of the placenta is covering the cervix)
    Your water has broken
    Your are currently experiencing bleeding
    You or your partner has an active sexually transmitted disease
    MamaSusieQ045

    Answer by MamaSusieQ045 at 4:12 AM on Dec. 20, 2010

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