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What is the difference between venting and complaining?

Do you view complaining more negatively vs venting? Or vice versa?

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Asked by Chocolatespring at 9:23 PM on Dec. 20, 2010 in Relationships

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  • I think the difference is between them is that ppl expect solutions to a complaint and ppl vent to keep from exploding. I don't really have a problem with either one.

    Answer by sweet29mom at 9:26 PM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • Venting is blowing off steam for something that you have under control or have a plan on how to control and just need to get out the frustration of the whole situation.

    Complaining is doing nothing but whining about a situation that YOU made, or that YOU keep getting your self into, or that YOU wont do anything about.


    Answer by sahlady at 9:26 PM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • They are about the same to me. People needs to talk about their problems with someone.

    Answer by louise2 at 9:29 PM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • we can all gain something from sharing our experiences positive and negative. I think bonding can happen, trust can form, sympathy, empathy, compassion, problem solving, etc. Relationships are based on a two-way dialogue that is, for the most part, unrestricted!There is definitely a difference between complaining and discussing our concerns. I think the main difference comes from our intent and the condition of our hearts. If we intend to spread malice and ill feelings we are complaining. If we intend to share our feelings with a friend to lighten our minds we are discussing. If our hearts are bitter and closed to God's higher resolution we are complaining. If our hearts are seeking fellowship and communal prayer we are discussing. think when we "do everything without complainign or arguing" we see fruit from it.

    Answer by lacyjay1987 at 9:30 PM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • i read once that people often forget the most important part about complaining- and that's the problem solving part...when you complain you're supposed to be stating why something is wrong or bothering you, but then think of ways to fix it....where venting is simply just whining and going on and on about things without a care except to express yourself. i think they are definitely different, when i vent i just want someone to listen- but when i complain, it's because i want something to change.

    Answer by lexi8622 at 10:46 PM on Dec. 20, 2010

  • complaining is negative

    Answer by gatorswife at 9:35 AM on Dec. 21, 2010

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