I have been with my man for 7 years and married for 5. We have an awesome 4 year old that we both love dearly, but for the past few months my hubby hasn't been there for my son and I. I know in my heart he hasn't cheated and we more so turned into roommates. Well I got fed up with this and asked for a separation, and asked him to decide what is important in our life. Well it turned for the worse...we moved back into our parent's houses and we were cleaning out our apartment when he asked for a divorce...I suppose I pushed it on him because I had told him I changed my mind about the separation and he said no I really do think we need this. And I had waited about a week and asked if we could try again because I love him so much, and I asked again do you really want this because divorce is kinda final. He said "I guess so" Well he asks when he can see me again because his words were..."We have been together for 7 years and I can't stop seeing you" I know he loves me because I can see it when we are together, which he wont stop ogling me and wanting to touch me...he asks jokingly he is not sure what the rules are because he "wants" me, and doesn't want to stop touching me. One day we were cleaning the apartment and he hugged me and I could barley contain myself and got teary eyed. I told him I don't like this and its hard...He told me it keeps getting harder and harder. I am watching his cats while he is in vegas for work and I am trying to keep it together. I miss him so much and want him back, but I don't know what to do. Oh and he still tells me he loves me...
I guess I just don't know if this is him punishing me for asking for the separation or if he really wants out....I need some advice...I am so fragile and I keep breaking :(
Answer by lacyjay1987 at 9:34 PM on Dec. 20, 2010
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Answer by fiatpax at 9:56 PM on Dec. 20, 2010
You need to tell him that either you can be together and you have certain expectations or you can let him go. He has his own free will and you are fine with that. Don't be weepy or needy. Be strong infront of him whether or not you are dieing inside. If he really wants you and can see that you don't need him and can do just fine without him he will come around. And even if he doesn't do you really want to disrespect yourself like that? Respect yourself and he will respect you. With men it is about getting what that can't have that makes them want you. I am learning this myself right now, it is very hard but I think it is working. Good luck!
Answer by Anonymous at 10:14 AM on Dec. 21, 2010
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