I have a friend that is staying with me a couple nights a week as she is separating from her husband. My SO and I live together, and we've been together for almost a year and a half. She hadn't met him prior to staying with us starting about 3 weeks ago. Anyway, whenever he and I are talking or joking or having a discussion with her, she tends to say "wow", in kind of a snide way like something is wrong.
For example: he and I have an inside joke where if I ask him something or say something to him he'll say "Yes Dear" in a defeated tone. Or if I am joking with him, she'll say it like I am so horrible or something. Last night, I asked him to help me clean up the kids' bathroom because they had just had a bath and toys were everywhere and she uses that bathroom. He was picking up the toys in the tub while I cleaned up the sink and floor, etc. She was discussing an issue with her spouse with me, and I joked that maybe he didn't know it was a problem for her because men are oblivious, and I said right honey. He said "Yes Dear". He and I were completely joking, because we both know he is in no way oblivious and we discuss everything. Her response "Wow".
I'm not really confrontational, so I haven't asked (but I do plan to), but I'm wondering why she would say it. It comes out kind of judgemental, and it's starting to frustrate me.
My SO and I have a good relationship and work well together, so when she says things like that, it makes me feel like she thinks I'm being bossy or crazy or something (and while I have my insane moments, none of these are instances of craziness), and I am not bossy or mean or anything like that. She only does it when I am saying something or doing something never him. And no, I'm not nagging or being a brat or anything. It's usually late when she comes over and he and I are either heading to bed or chilling out on the couch watching t.v. or something.
Maybe I'm just venting. Anyone know why she would act like this?
Asked by Anonymous at 2:03 PM on Dec. 21, 2010 in Relationships
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Answer by vicesix at 2:15 PM on Dec. 21, 2010
She is unhappy...maybe she is jealous a little but DO NOT REARRANGE YOUR LIFESTYLE because of her...be who you are in your house and just continue to show her how happy you and your SO are...maybe it will teach her or show her how great relationships should be. Just because her relationship is done doesn't mean you have to change yours to accommodate her feelings I disagree completely with the above poster for saying to stop being the couple you are for someone who is not a part of you and your SO's relationship. Her snipping is her issue and needs to be dealt with through a sit down conversation between you, your SO, and her...SO needs to express his feelings also or she will think you ARE bossy and in charge and in control of the entire relationship as she sees it now...
Answer by 4_28_bbboy at 2:19 PM on Dec. 21, 2010
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