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Relationship issue

Im 28 years old i have a 4 1/2 year old son im a single mom baby daddy has been gone since day one .Now my question is i have met this really great guy he is 31 has a 9 year old daughter and we have been talking for about a week now we just went out on a date and after the date he went to kiss me and freaked out a bit but i liked it and wanted more but i feel like i could fall for this guy and he wants to be in a seriours relationship and i want one as well but im still not sure how fast to go how soon /long would you wait to be sexual involved help please

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 3:58 PM on Nov. 9, 2008 in Relationships

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  • Wait until you're comfortable. If he won't wait then he isn't worth it. Take it as slow as you need to.
    sbastille

    Answer by sbastille at 4:00 PM on Nov. 9, 2008

  • If he is looking for something other than sex he'll definitely wait and besides its only been a week. Take it slow and continue getting to know him before you go to the next level. For some men a woman "giving it up" too soon is a turn off. Make him work for it!
    MsTaylor28

    Answer by MsTaylor28 at 4:09 PM on Nov. 9, 2008

  • i waited till my wedding day but we moved the date up cause we couldn't wait. if you wait to see if he really loves you then why not wait till your married. it's more special on your wedding day. that way at least you got the marriage which i'm sure you would like and not let a piece of you be taken if he didn't marry you. isn't sharing your body with someone he married you more special anyway. otherwise your risking him just having been another lay in his book. or your book. waiting a month or two doesn't show that he truly loves you. marrying you does. so hold out.
    melody77

    Answer by melody77 at 4:37 PM on Nov. 9, 2008

  • Slow down and wait til u are ready become friends 1st
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:46 PM on Nov. 9, 2008

  • you have a kid and so does he those should be your 1st priorities. I wouldn't worry about sex right now. Just take your time and get to know each other longer than a week for sure. If it is meant to be than it will happen. No matter how long it takes you.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:15 PM on Nov. 9, 2008

  • thank you ladies for all your help
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:42 PM on Nov. 10, 2008

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