Me and my BF have been together for 2 1/2 years and have a beautiful 19 month old daughter. He is 19 I'm 21. I was 19 when I had my daughter. We both stepped up, it took him a little while to grow up though. Right now we are just getting okay. (This is the longest we've gone w/o breaking up & getting back together). From the outside the relationship looks wonderful, we seem like a happy loving family. But, its all a facade. I am having many personal doubts about my partner & I really don't think I want or am to be with him forever. The hardest part is I am my BFs rock, me and my daughter are all he has. His family just started becoming a part of his life. So with all these factors, I think I've just simply fallen out of love, we just aren't compatible. But he is still in love with me, very much. However, He is very controling and clingy and I honestly hate it. I just want to be single and alone for a while. Go back to school and take care of my daughter the best I can. But, I also want what's best for our daughter, so this is why we stay together, I feel obligated. But that shouldn't be why, right? Having very difficult time with this. Please some insight and opinions! Am I being selfish? Should I just continue pretending? Or follow my heart? And if so, how should I go about it? Help! Thank you so much.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:15 AM on Dec. 22, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by gumby11883 at 11:20 AM on Dec. 22, 2010
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Answer by Kimimale at 11:22 AM on Dec. 22, 2010
You can't pretend to love someone and keep everyone happy. You should be honest with him about what your feeling and see what you guys can come up with. Most people wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with them, so maybe you two can remain friends and raise your daughter together but not be together. Just be honest.
Answer by bjojola at 11:23 AM on Dec. 22, 2010
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Answer by Ricanmami1 at 12:09 PM on Dec. 22, 2010
I would talk about it with him and get on the same page. I am sure he doesn't want you to be unhappy. You will find common ground with your daughter later in life, if that is what you decide to do. A little one will not understand what you are going through, so you will be the bad guy for a while. I hope you can find that healthy loving relationship with him again. Don't give up on him yet. Have faith in eachother through the good and bad, then make a decision. It is a hard life to be without a dad. Do you really want to subject your daughter to other men? I wouldn't.
Answer by sexyfancyface at 1:21 PM on Dec. 22, 2010