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"Mixed Kids" Should they self-identify with ...

- only one parent?

- the race they most resemble?

- the culture in which they are raised?

- nothing in particular...they should not have to choose.


Asked by ss_mom at 4:25 PM on Dec. 22, 2010 in Parenting Debate

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Answers (34)
  • mother is mexican, my dad white. I'm pretty much lilly white, but my brother is very dark and looks Mexican. I was raised with both families, and both traditions....what I feel is American.

    Answer by ohwrite at 4:26 PM on Dec. 22, 2010

  • The should not have to choose

    Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 4:25 PM on Dec. 22, 2010

  • You can't make them choose, they will decide for themselves when they are older. My daughter is half hispanic, but you can't even tell I'm her mom (I'm white). She is the same color as my boyfriend who is all hispanic. It's for her to decide when she gets older. But I will do my best to help learn both English and Spanish while she's still young.

    Answer by badgirl44654 at 4:30 PM on Dec. 22, 2010


    Answer by cielo1 at 4:26 PM on Dec. 22, 2010

  • Anything or anyway they choose to identify themselves.


    Answer by shanlaree at 4:26 PM on Dec. 22, 2010

  • Well, since it's SELF identify there is no should. It's illogical to tell a person how to self identify.

    Answer by SuperChicken at 4:26 PM on Dec. 22, 2010

  • I think they would identify with the culture(s) they were raised with.


    Answer by scout_mom at 5:23 PM on Dec. 22, 2010

  • Most biracial children identify with their mother's race/ethnicity. I'm assuming my daughter will identify herself as black (since I am obviously black, and am the custodial parent), but I wouldn't get offended if she identified herself as white. They "shouldn't" have to choose, but the reality is, they will be categorized by race in the real world.

    Answer by Fallaya at 7:32 PM on Dec. 22, 2010

  • My dd is half white, half hispanic. I am white and i am the one rasing her. She looks like a white girl (very light, just like me, blue eyes and light brown hair). Since I am the one raising her, she is raised white. She says she is white and I don't even think she knows she is anything else.

    Answer by JLS2388 at 8:10 PM on Dec. 22, 2010

  • What year is this?? They should not have to choose.

    Answer by TARARENEE at 11:53 AM on Dec. 23, 2010

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